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writes:This may get a little long-winded, so bear with me...I tend to frequent a bar in my area that features rather attractive waitresses. This was my bar of choice in college and as I'm still in the area after I've graduated, I've continued to visit the establishment. A few months ago, I bought a shot from the waitress that was unlucky enough to be the "shot girl" that night. I was on my way back from the ATM, so I was by myself, so I jokingly told her I'd only buy it if she didn't tell anyone. She laughed, I felt suave, and I went back to my table.A while later she came round to our table and asked if I wanted another one, but I respectfully declined, and instead told her to go over to one of my friends and say "If I can guess your name, will you buy a shot?" He agreed and of course I mouthed his name to her behind his back. He bought one, and she smiled at me. The next time I came back, she waved at me pretty enthusiastically, and we ended up formally introducing ourselves. I figured we'd just kind of have a fun friendship that might only exist in the bar, but the chain of events last weekend changed my mind.Let me recant my experiences. Me and a friend came in on Thursday, and ended up sitting in her section. She came over with a smile on her face and said "You're finally sitting in my section!" and promptly gave me a hug. First time that happened. Then, a few times throughout the night, she would stop by the table and tell me that other dudes were kind of creepily checking her out. She told me I have the cutest laugh... Hmm... Then, the kicker on the whole thing, she came over to the table again and asked, "Did you guys come to our Coyote Ugly night last year?""No, I must've missed it," I said."Aw, I'm in it, you've gotta come this year and stand right in front of me during the 'water dance'"Now, I'm not quite sure what the 'water dance' is, but I can let my mind wander. Of course, being the kind of anti-suave guy, I left without asking her out, and good gravy did I question that decision for the entire next day. Anyway, I recounted those events for a different friend the next night, and I had decided that the next time I saw her out, I would ask. So, the next time I saw her, I 'stole' her away from a table of three dudes, and asked her out to dinner. She said she'd love to and gave me her number.Now, I've seen Swingers, so I wanted to wait a day to call. So I called yesterday afternoon and left a voicemail, and have yet to hear back. Now I realize she could be doing the same 'wait' technique that I was, but my self-defeating tendencies are making me think I may have made a misstep at some point...I guess it's been less than 24 hours since I left the message, but am I being a little overly analytical here? I know if I don't hear back from her, the last thing I should do is call again, but it's only a matter of time till I see her out and about again, and I don't want that to be awkward for no good reason...Anyway, feel free to slap me if I'm being an idiot here.Thanks.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (10 March 2008):
 Waitresses like this get paid to be flirty. That's how they make their tips and you'd be amazed by how much money they pocket after an night of flirting and acting enthuzed by every guy that's drooling over them. If she was interested in you, she would've called you back by now. She probably gets more offers than you can imagine and has her hands full of dates and men clamoring for her affections. I think it's time to find another fun bar to hang out in. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): Hey, just a follow up (I posted the question).
When she was not on the job (aka being my waitress), and I saw her out, she was always MORE flirtatious towards me. Sneaking up and hugging me from behind and such. Just a little more info.
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