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*tweed417
writes:She has one friend who's a terrible influence!I am one of the few 20 yr old men who has found true love. Our relationship of 1.5 years has been more good then bad. we have done more then alot of people have done at our age lived together for 3 months lived apart in different states for 5 months worked at the same job for 8 months. We spend alot of time with each other. But during our relationship she met a girl who has no goals, ambitions, does exsessive amounts of drugs, drinks til she blacks out and basically sleeps with everyone. And some how her and my girlfriend clicked. I trustt my girl not to do alot of those things but lets face it, its her best friend. She has plenty of other friends i like but ofcoarse her best friend i hate. I dont want to loose her. Or leave her but the other day i told her once again how i feel about this friend and ive never been in a bigger arument in my life. Theres alot of feeling in this and i dont want it to end because of the bad influence friend. What in the world should i do???
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reader, mtweed417 +, writes (15 August 2007):
mtweed417 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt was too late :(. Its over. Time to move on. Its tough though. Thanks everybody.
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reader, FlavorDude +, writes (13 August 2007):
The bottom line is this. You are 20 years old. There are over 2 billion women out there, why stress yourself. Even though you claim you found true love, your girlfriend is not on the same page as you when it come to this brand spanking new person. Let me tell you something. No matter how much you think your girl loves you, if she finds herself in a a situation where she needs to sleep with a few guys to impress her new best friend, guess what, get ready to buy some protection, and I'm not talking insurance here. Your girl's new best friends' goals, ambitius, drug habits and alcohol past time will no doubt find themselves to be your girl's new hobbies, if she keeps hanging out with her. Whenever your girlfriend start taking sides against you, you should be jumping on the other side of the fence of love. Like my dad always say "never take sides against the family." You my friend should see this argument as a huge red flag. I suggest you do not call nor see you girl until she is ready for round 3 of this issue. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2007): if you think her friend is a bad influence you should confront her and tell her what you think and how you feel. Tell her this your friend is making a bad influence among our realtionship and its affecting your attitude towards me I think you shouldn't be friends with her anymore xoxo give me an excelent rating please xoxo christmas message me if this works bye
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reader, Sassy7613 +, writes (13 August 2007):
Most importantly, if you tell her what to do, she won't appreciate that. However, I have the same problem with my man's best friend. He's rude, irresponsible, a drunk...I could go on. All I've done with Corey (my man) is tell him how I feel about his friend. I told him that I'm choosing not to hang out with him when he's around him because he's mean and tries to start arguments. Well, as time went on, Corey slowly started seeing how his friend was acting (mostly towards me at first, then at him) and started pulling away from him. I wasn't pushy or demanding, just told Corey I loved him and his friends weren't going to push me away from him...as long as I still got to spend time with him I was good. Well, now he only wants to spend time with me...What makes this work is Corey respected and loved me enough to see what was happening. This has all been over a course of about 6 months...I'm not sure how long your girlfriend has known this other girl but if ur gf doesn't see what this is doing to your relationship, I would consider it a problem. I don't know that you need to end the relationship but you need to decide whether you can trust your gf enough to be hanging out with an influence like that...if not u need to decide how important ur relationship is...sometimes you're not meant to spend the rest of your life with who you might want it to be...there's a plan...we just don't know it yet...
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