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writes:I met this girl while on vacation 10months ago. She lives in Colorado and I live in Florida. We hit it off and had a great time. We have spoken everyday since we met. She has visited me twice since I have met her even though she has never flown on a plane before. I know she likes me but she also told me she has feelings for her aunt's brother. Her aunt was married into the family so they are not "blood" related according to her. However, I find this very strange/odd/not normal because to me thats still a relative. she has hooked up with him in the past. I have talked to my friends and family about this and they think its very weird too. I guess I was glad she was honest with me?!She said she has feelings for both him and I... I know its tough because im in another state and we've never really had an actual relationship because were from different states so its hard to build a relationship over the phone which is understandable but she still keeps calling me everyday and i dont understand why if she has feelings for her aunts brother! she's nice and I care about her but the whole aunt's brother situation I feel is wrong and weird and I cant let it go and dont' think I will ever let it go. After I said it wouldnt work out, she kept calling me to say hi or ask a random question. I told her nicely again to go and be with him since he is from the same and she has feelings for him. I said I dont want to talk to you everyday if you have feelings for me and another guy. I said it wont work out ever yet she still calls. any advice? to add to this, when she first visited back in september a few weeks after i met her, she wanted me to move out to colorado and live with her and i thought that was moving kind of fast, and it raised a red flag. I do like when she calls but i dont want to talk to her when her feelings are mixed. am i making sense? its not normal to hook up with ur aunts brother even if ur not blood related right?! Theres so much against me. The distance, another man that comes and goes and all these red flags and I still think about her. NONE of my friends and family think shes normal and they all feel shes not for me. I dont know if she really has feelings for both of us or if shes just saying that. But i just think that if she had money issues, why would she drop $300 on a plane ticket twice just to see me for a couple days. What would you do? Thank you for reading.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (23 July 2009):
 This girl seems to like you but shes confused by her emotions. I feel you should stand by her and be her friend if you care about her why abandon her shes only human after all shes entitled to be imperfect, let her work things out with her bf for now who nows what wll happen in t future things could turn your way but dont burn your bridges, as for her liking a relative if there not blood related thers no issue its not weird and quite common i heard as story where a couple got remarried years later after there chilldren where grown the mother who had been estranged form her son for some time decided it would be agood idea to get back ni touch by telling him about the wedding but the problem was the sons gfs father was having a wedding on the same day and she was going to introduce him to her family that way and he had promised her he would go so he decided he would go to his gfs and just leave a bit early, well when he got there he realised his mother was marrying hs gfs father.
I think you should focus on some other things besides this girl try making a new gf for one
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