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writes:hey every one....ok, me and my girlfriend have been going out for about 5 months now, partially off and on cuz we r both really busy people. she has had a bit of a troubled past, with boy friends cheating on her, and about being bi for a year... yes ok we are both only 17 but that is not the problem, she seems to have commitment issues, we both like each other so much(love is a strong word but im leaning towards it) anyway, we go out to the movies constantly were we can laugh have fun make out etc. however she is haveing trouble with the thought of being in a serious relationship, she has alot on her mind, and we recently took a break because she felt that we were getting really close and she was scared she would ruin it some how by cheating, now i told her she shouldnt worry because i trust her and kno she wouldnt, but we are takeing some time apart..... we have gone out for lunch together and everything but she doesnt want to physically express how we feel towards each other in public,I want to get into a serious relationship and she says she needs to sort some stuff out in her head first, like trying to get over her ex. cheating on her and i have a feeling she has commitment issues because of it....So how can i help her to get over these commitment issues and "Public Displays of Affection" issues?????
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (15 July 2008):
Well, she has told you the answer to this already!
Give her some space, don't be too boyfriend-ish to her, just carry on having a laugh and making out.
If she's frightened of feeling suffocated, then you need to be chilled out and understanding and take things slowly.
Continue like you are and she will learn to trust you and herself eventually. As for public displays of affection, some people are just not into that. She might do more of the hand holding stuff as she warms up to the idea of a relationship, she might not. You're just going to have to deal with it.
Good Luck!! xx
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