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*ullmetal_heart
writes:hi guys,after 4 years i meet a highschool friend(female) in my college. she got admitted newly. i know she has a bf,when i asked her, she admits it too. she started texting me,we become close now. during our school days, we never talk to each other. now we text each other everyday. if i dnt reply her soon, she used to ask if m busy. we talk about normal stuffs like what we are up to,what we are gonna do today. we text each other till we sleep. it seems like she talk but doesn't do texting with her bf. when i told her that if my gf keep texting to another guy,i'll think she is cheating me. then she told me that if i find it uncomfortable , she will stop texting me. i told her that m not saying it is uncomfortable. if i'm uncomfortable, why would i text to you like i am doing now. i am kind of confused. she sometimes ask to come to watch drama , or any function with her. i think she knows that i like her too, as her friends tease me with her name. i told her that i like her.and now,she admits that she love me,but did not expect to have relationship as it is not right to do so as she is already in a relationship. but she did responded nicely. at some point of time,i let her know that i dnt want to have relationship with a girl who is already in a relationship indiectly. she says i have al the qualities that she like exept my shyness and that makes her love me more. some weeks before,i told her that i want to maintain some gap as i started liking her. so she is saying that she recharge her message pack just to chat with me. so till it expire,let her say whatever she want to say.and share his feeling for the last time. it is like if i ask her to some sort of date,she'll agree. what might she be thning,what she wants from me? does she want just some company or she want to keep me as her back up guy? pliz help me,let me know your opinions aunties and ancle,and all my friends here.
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reader, fullmetal_heart +, writes (18 April 2012):
fullmetal_heart is verified as being by the original poster of the question ok..thanks again..yea..i also feel that just like she lied to her bf,she could also lie to me even if we are in a relationship,which i hate....i'll move on like you said....thank u once again dear ma'm!!!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (17 April 2012):
 I think you done the right thing, at the end of the day if she really wants to be with you then she would end things with her boyfriend so she could be with you. If she contacts you again and brings this up you need to be straight with her and tell her that she has a boyfriend and you are not interested in seeing her while she is with someone else. She is lying to her boyfriend which is not very nice and it puts you in an awkward position. She needs to choose between you or him, she cannot have you both.
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reader, fullmetal_heart +, writes (17 April 2012):
fullmetal_heart is verified as being by the original poster of the questiondear ma;m,this is what happen recently. that girl ,who already has a bf, i was talking about, text me most of the time,and i text her too. if i dnt reply,she would just ask if i am busy,or call me up. and she told me that she like to talk to me more than anything else,and she doesn't talk mich with her bf these days and she is not happy talking to him as she does when she talk to me. she went to a place ,5 hrs away from our place,few days back and she ask me to give her company to the town from where she was suppose to get the transport vehicle to go to that pace. i did as she asked. she was visiting her grandmother who was hospitalised. when she was staying there,she used to text me and me asn complained that i didnt call her or text her. i called her up and talk for 1 and half hour. she used to laugh most of the time when we talk,she laught even at my stupidest jokes. when she came back from that place,she ask me to come to receive her at the bus station. when i refuse,she said thing like i didn't care for her,it seems like i don't love her..and ask me if i really love her. i went to receive her. she show me what she bought for me. after few minutes,she got a call and she replied that her female freinds come to receive her,and even tell some of her friends name. i knew immediately that is was her bf. i asked her if he was her bf and if she was telling him that her female friends came to receive her. she replied yes,and asked me back if i wanted to her to tell him that i came to receive her. i replied,"it's ok"..i understand. it was like i didn't exist for that moment...my existence was denied. we didn't talk the whole way,i kept quiet,and she did the same. at night,she told me to talk with her for the last time. when we talked that night,she told me that it was because of the unavoidable condition that she lied,and she was ashamed for telling that lie if front of me. she also told me that they are n more talking much these days,they are talking just as formality,and she like to talk to me more that she does with her bf,she no more wants to talk with him. i told her that we'll just stay as friends,ask her to go her own way and i'll go on with my life in my own ways . i asked her not to talk about love stuffs anymore. i do not know if i did the right thing or not. i do really like her..and i feel like i am missing her...some of my friends told me that what i did was exactly what i should do,and some told me that i should keep relatioship with her,and she is not bad...i am really confused , pliz give me your opinon.....thanks in advance.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (6 April 2012):
Your welcome.
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reader, fullmetal_heart +, writes (4 April 2012):
fullmetal_heart is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank u for ur precious opinions,thanks a lot !
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (4 April 2012):
She has no right to be jealous at the end of the day she was the one in the relationship, now you are moving on and she does not like it. please try and move on from her and concentrate on your new relationship
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reader, fullmetal_heart +, writes (4 April 2012):
fullmetal_heart is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank u ma'm. right now i am seeing a new one. when she called me,my new gf call is in waiting. so i told her to put down the phone,but she never put it down when i told,either i have to insist her again and again or i have to put it down by myself. and she is blaming that i treat her like crap. she seems to becom jealous since i started talking to this new one.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (3 April 2012):
It sounds to me like this started off as an innocent friendship and now it has became so much more. I guess the only person that can give you answers to these questions is her. I think she really enjoys talking to you through messages but I don't think she is willing to give up her relationship for you. I think she enjoys the attention she gets from you, but I think it is not healthy for you, and you should always put yourself first. You are doing the right thing by dropping all contact with her because you will be the one that will be left hurt and lost. Try and get her out of your life now and move on with your life. Good luck.
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