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writes:my girlfriend and i have been dating for about 2 months now. this is the first relationship for both of us. when we first started going out, we would text everyday, almost all day. but lately shes been only texting once a day. we used to see each other every other day, and now its once a week a mutual friend told me i was being clingy, because i asked her to hang out like everyday for a week, but she said no every time, and that i got upset every time, but family was in town that come in once every 2 years, and my family wanted to meet heri know she still likes me, based on the texts she sends and the times we do hangout, but its kind of frustrating that we don't have what we used to have. we are going to do a long distance relationship in a month, because we are going to be at colleges 4 hours away. i just want to replace the spark that went out, how do i?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionupdate: she texted me that night. I've come to realize that we are just moving out of the infatuation stage. we don't need to talk to each other constantly to know that we still care about each other. now we text each other right before we go to bed, tell each other how our day went, then say good night, and sometimes we text each other a little during the day
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for all your help! i'll let you know what happens
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reader, GarethA  +, writes (7 July 2009):
I think the last poster gives some sound advice. I had a very similar situation recently where I was in constant contact with a girl I liked a lot, but I could never really tell if she felt the same way.
We would see each other every day without fail and text each other when we weren't together and things were always great. Then it all stopped due to circumstances beyond our control and we couldn't see each other very often.
Much as I felt the urge to constantly text and phone her I knew it was not the best thing for either of us. Clinginess is not appealing, and if she is not that keen then your attentions are better placed elsewhere.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2009): Well from Personal experience, and even dating experts have come to the conclusion that the vast majority of women are not attracted to needy, clingy guys. It's just that way.
Try not to have any contact with her for a few days, rule of thumb 72 hours max. That which is chased, runs. Stop chasing her, and if she's for you, then she'll be the one texting you. I know it'll be a tall task if you love that girl. but sometimes you just have to do what you have to do if you want to salvage the relationship. If she has you in her thoughts, She'll start missing you and she'll call you. Show that you have a life outside of her. You have school, friends, family. That's an entire world that you can dedicate yourself to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe've already discussed how we're going to do the LDR. i have a few football games near her college, so ill see her once every two weeks
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