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writes: I recently started seeing a girl, however she told me she had an abortion with her previous boyfriend after two weeks after we had been going out it killed me! i couldnt believe that this girl who i had spent time with came out with this, she was expecting me to break up with her but i said i dont care about your past its ok. but is it should i have broken up with her?? were both 18
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2005): yep u should
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reader, Mirabell +, writes (6 December 2005):
 The only reason to break up with her is if you are so morally opposed to an abortion that it hurts your sensibilities to be with her. If, however, you are one of our modern day believers in women's rights, you have no standing to end it. Here's a fact: Every woman and man has something in their past that would make someone else not crazy about dating them. If it didn't have anything to do with you, and doesn't affect you at all, why does it matter?As long as she is good during your relationship you shouldn't break up with her for what may or may have happened in the past. In addition, if she didn't want to have a baby, you can't blame her for it. Perhaps you shouldn't be so judgmental when she is baring her soul to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2005): There is a lot to learn here. One: she has poor judgement. Make sure you two are taking precautions (like two forms) not to get pregnant.Two: Are her feelings about morality the same as yours? And if you dont think she put any thought into her actions thats a major warning sign. If you arent happy with her rationale, then move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2005): well dear it depends on how u feel really. u seem very fond of this girl and obvious u respect her a lot. if u want my advise i dont think i would end it with her becos of this. she did come out and tell u truthfully. alot of people would have hidden it from u and there isnt anyway u would have known and u would see be dating them. so should u end it with her becos she decided to be honest about it i dont think so. she is obviusly a sincere person and this is a trait i like about her so far. another thing is dat she might have made a mistake in the past which resulted in her making such a decision she probably regrets it and needs ur support. having an abortion is a personal choice and its her choice. take care and try to be the complete gentleman no matter what u decide
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