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writes:My friend has been with her boyfriend for five years, she flirts with a lot of guys and to her bf she just pretends that the flirting is coming from a one way street, I just met her not for too long, I can see that she is very manipulative towards her bf..well I don't care too much about what goes on with her and her bf but I can feel she's trying to flirt with my crush trying to get his attention on her. When me and her are talking I don't know if she accidentally or purposely mentions my crushes name a few times when she's talking about someone else...she mentioned to me before that she thinks a lot of girls like my crush, then when my crush is sitting near by us she will like walk out in front of him back and forth like trying to grab his attention...honestly I don't think my crush will like her but it just feels ridiculous that she would be doing something like this knowing how much I'm into him...she would do this in front of me and she would tell me if she sees him when I'm not there..
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (22 June 2009):
She does this because she's insecure and needs attention. It makes her feel better if she can get a guy's attention that he isn't giving to her friend that likes him. To me, it is so juvenile. I had a friend do that in high school, but not as an adult...so to me it's strange. I would say, ignore her. She has a boyfriend, she's lame, he's not your boyfriend, and he probably thinks she's stupid too. If she mentions his name, just ask her why she even talks about him or feels the need to mention him. Call her out when she does that, let her know that you're on to her without actually saying it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I don't think my crush will like her and I feel that she is just doing it intentionally, and if I did talk to her about it, I think it would give her way too much of an ego boost..I trust my crush, but I think its just wrong of her to do those things, knowing how much I'm into this guy or even just knowing that me and my crush are interested..plus she has been with her bf for 5 years and when we hangout together with her and her bf, I give her the respect and know where the line draws...its just disappointing
..And yes definitely I will never tell my crushes to a new friend in the future..I told her because she didn't seem like a person that would do these kind of things-seemed like a cool person until i told her..but guess I made a mistake and was totally wrong about what kind of person she is..it just sort of flipped out on me
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): UHHH, I totally can relate to you! Do you trust your crush? Trust is the key part to a good relationship. Does he like you? Try talking to him about it, and express your feelings. This one girl was all over my boyfriend one day, and I got so upset because she has a boyfriend too. It's not fair to anyone, and it can be rather frustrating. I took the girl for a walk one day and told her how I felt. It was a big mis-understanding- it turned out; she didn't know she was doing it! Some girls have a flirtatious personality trait to them. The best thing to do is to talk it out. It's not worth it to have your feelings bottled up, it only makes you feel worse.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): I'd stop talking about your crushes with your new friend to avoid this kind of annoying behavior in the future.
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