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male
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30-35,
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writes:I met this girl, who i really liked and we had a really good friendship. She already had a boyfriend, so I couldn't ask her out or anything. They eventually broke up, and we started hanging out more.Eventually I told her how I felt, and she had felt the same way the whole time. We both volunteered at the fire station, and so did her father. She said that her father would not let her date anyone from the firehouse. She said she was sorry and that was it, and that we couldn't be a couple.A few months later, she started flirting more, and she got a lot more sincere when she talked to me. She started hugging me and kissing me on the cheek and I did the same. We hung out three days in a row, and made out several times and she continued to tell me how important I was to her. So, I was thinking she wanted to start dating me, because she never told me that this would be temporary. We went two days without seeing each other, and I wanted to see her again, but by talking to her on the phone, I felt like something had changed in the past few days. When I saw her again, she didn't kiss me or hug me or anything. It was like nothing had ever happened. She didn't explain it or anything, so I asked her. She just said she couldn't do it, because she wasn't allowed to. A few months later, she went on to start dating someone else from our firehouse, even though she said she wasn't allowed to date me for that reason. I still haven't gotten an explanation for that either. Since she initially told me nothing could happen, then led me on, and shut me down again with no explanation, and then started dating the other guy after telling me she wasn't allowed to, should I be angry? I feel like if she knew she wasn't allowed to date me, then she should not have started flirting and kissing me, or she should have told me that it would not lead to any relationship. And, I thought she should have thought about me when she started dating the other guy, and at least tell me about it. (I only found out by seeing it on facebook) My friends that I have talked to agreed with me that she either used me on purpose, or that she at least shouldn't have led me on like that. Do I have the right to be angry with her? Or was I just expecting too much out of nothing?
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reader, lacrymosa_652  +, writes (31 January 2011):
 Yes you have the right to be annoyed with her... but don't dwell on it. It's just a sign of her immaturity that she can't be straight with you. Tell yourself that you deserve better; no matter how attractive she is, it's not worth being with someone so fickle.
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