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writes:HiWonder if you can help again. I'm finding coping with my break up very difficult. I keep going over everything over and over again, tempted to send a text to her to give her a piece of my mind, write a letter etc. She ended the relationship by abruptly hanging up on me and I feel like I'm bursting with stuff to say, more than likely in anger. I'm looking for some good suggestions to help me move on. Any ideas?
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (14 November 2007):
 Both responses are right on. Write that letter, don't send it. Make a pro/con list of why this break up is a good thing. Honestly there must be some things that bothered you about her. Make sure you add what she did to you to end your relationship.
If you call her, text her, etc chances are she'll look upon this as your "pathetic attempt" to get her back and yes, it will boost her ego. Don't give her the satisfaction.
The best revenge is living good. Live good, move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2007): I am going through a similar situation, but it was him who dumped me unceremoniously and with no reason.
Write that letter, write two, or 10. But don't send them. Just the action of writing it out, getting it off your chest helps enormously, but sending it will do nothing. I wrote letters every day for a week that I never sent, and it helped.
Now, finally, I am starting to get to the point where, yes, it still hurts to think of him, but it's more of a hurt of what will never be again rather than a why/what if/how. I can now start to see a future without him.
Best of luck to you mate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2007): Don't try to pursue her since it will only boost her ego thinking that you're madly in love with her and you can't get her off your mind. Don't be obsess with the idea of she breaking up with you. Whatever the reason of the break up whether you did wrong or not, if you want to move on, command respect for yourself and let it go. Cut it clean and focus on somebody or something worthwhile. Don't revolve your world around her. Go to the gym buddy!
Good Luck
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