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41-50,
*nteractiveboy
writes:HelloA woman who I dated and loved deeply ended our relationship about 18 months ago but we both remained 'friends'. I was devasted but managed to 'pull myself together'.Recently she has has started giving me expensive watches and other gifts for my birthday and recently Christmas.Can someone please tell me what she's up to as this is beginning to mess with my head? Deep down I still love her.Any advice / feedback would be appreciated.Thanks
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (9 January 2008):
 There could be several reasons,
1)She still treats you as a good friend and wants to repay you back for those good times together.
2) She could be feeling guilty she broke up with you.
3)She wants you to remember her as she remembers you.
4) She is available now?
If she is still unattached,you can still go and woo her .Contact her and find out .
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2008): OK, there's 2 basic options here that I can figure out.1) I could be some kind of guilt. If I'm being honnest, I think this is pretty un likely and if you've been friends for the last 18 months I think that this is pretty unlikely.2) If you are still carrying a candle, maybe so is she? Not an easy subject to broach at the best of times, let alone with your ex. Try sugesting that you wnt to take her out for a meal to thank her for her generous gift. Somehwere nice but to to excessive. Given a bit of space to talk maybe you can bring the subject up of the gifts and perhaps even how you feel. Dont have too much to drink - either of you. ANything that does transpire is far mre likely to last if it is not excessively influenced by drink.Above all, if you value your firndship with this lady - dont do anything that could risk it. I've been there myself with the 'lets stay friends' thing. It does work as long as you genuinely accept that that friendship is all thats on offer. It took me over 5 years to get over my ex and be ready to date again but we are realy close friends now and I can see how everything has worked out for the best.
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