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writes:My Girlfriend dumped me on Monday, after a month, she said that she didn't feel the same way as when we started dating, it just completely came out of nowhere and I was devastated. I was sure that we would last longer than that and i thought that it was love. I'm confused and upset because the previous Friday i made a move to finger her for the first time, I had my hand down and she encouraged me but my parents were in the house and we both agreed that maybe it wasn't such a great idea and to wait till there was a free house. She was as she is normally on Friday and we were getting on better than ever before. After she dumped me on Monday, she said it had absolutely nothing to to with what happened on Friday. She has stuck to this and I trust her when she says that. she said that if we had been going too fast (which we weren't) then she would have asked me just to slow down instead of dumping me. We're still great friends still on hugging terms and we flirt like usual but she still doesn't want to be with me. I'm really confused as to me, this seems to have come completely out of the blue, she was fine on Friday and then the next time i saw her on Monday she dumped me!We're both 15.Please help, how to understand this and if I've got any chance in the future.D
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2008): Ahh, that's when my man and I started dating...15. A good year. Anyhow, she probably wasn't ready to start dating you. Me and my man were best friends for months before he got up enough courage to ask me out. Even then, we held off for a few more months to get physical. She may just need time, or is perhaps not interested in persuing a real sexual relationship with you.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (14 January 2008):
 Try to put yourself in her position. You're starting to realise your relationship isn't working for you anymore but the other person doesn't see it. You're waiting it out to see if your feelings will change but then something happens, something which signals the start of something big that will bind you even closer together when all you want is a little breathing space to work out if you're happy the way things are right now... I don't think what you did made her dump you, just maybe made her dump you sooner. Try to stay friends. Maybe things will work out when she's had some time. But maybe they won't. Just a tip but maybe in future talk about these things before doing them. That way you're less likely to take someone by surprise. After all, if you're mature enough to be having sex you need to be mature enough to talk about it.
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