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writes:Im in a big trouble. I met a girl on social networking site and we became good friends. We use to send each other messages and talked on the phone also many a times for long long hours. Than finally we met at a place. We were going very good, but this girl had a past relationship which she had told me about in the beginning only. She was very serious into it, but that boy is now married. Now we had such talks that I felt that we can go along together. So I proposed her. She was ok with that but she did not agreed on this and told me that she cannot involve in such relationship anymore because of her past. Now I am deeeply in love with this girl and I know this is not an attraction only. Than she controlled talking to me and finally after a week she completely stoped talking to me. Now I am unable to concentrate on my work and thinking about her continuosly. Our relationship lasted for 24 days. Please suggest something.Thanks in advance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmay be this will be a little hard for me because I had always believed in friendship and this girl made me realise what love is.....but what can be done now ? Nothing...just to go on....quite hard thing....
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 November 2010):
 but am afraid it doesnt work like that though, if you have deep feelings for this woman then a friendship is very hard to maintain because your feelings will get in the way and if she meets a new man it will hurt you and you will find it very hard to listen to her as a friend telling you about new men and relationships ect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbut can't we make just good friends?....or is there any way to continue our friendship?.....i just want to make her happy....if not by any deep relationship than by just friends...
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (12 November 2010):
If she doesnt contact you then you need to accept that it is over and she doesnt want to talk to you, therefore you need to put her in your past and get on with your life, this is not easy for anyone to do, but if you contact her you will probably just make things worse, use this space to accept that she doesnt want to be with you and that it is over, and concentrate on moving on with your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionand what if she did not contacted any more?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2010): Thanx Aunt Honesty...fine i will not contact her...but our let me tell you our last conversation.....i had asked her to come to meet me but she said NO and than she said not to contact her anymore....than we had some chat on phone and after that she send me the message saying sorry for hurting me and if I can forgive her.....now after that we are not having talks....and if she did not contacted me ever than what?
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (11 November 2010):
Your better not contacting her give her some space, i think she might not want anything to serious at the moment and you came on a little two strong so she is ignoring you now, maybe she is scared off getting hurt again, give her more space dont contact her, let her contact you if she wants to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks 2 all for ur answers...but now there is one thing...this girl had met me on social networking site....tell me a hurted girl will start talking to some one unknown in full swing...will give the boy all signals that yes she is also ready to go along( but yes, she did ask for some time form me) ....what can b a reason behind such a behaviour ?....I did not rush in I was made to rush in. I found this girl to be sad...n I jst fall in love with this girl @ first sight, and I don't know why? She is jst an average looking girl and this was my first such experience....I got ready to go along with her without caring about what she might have done in her past.... Tell me if I try to contact her will she be any more interested in talking to me or is she missing me now when were not talking since last 10 days...Bcoz I m missing her like anything all the time....
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks 2 all for ur answers...but now there is one thing...this girl had met me on social networking site....tell me a hurted girl will start talking to some one unknown in full swing...will give the boy all signals that yes she is also ready to go along( but yes, she did ask for some time form me) ....what can b a reason behind such a behaviour ?....I did not rush in I was made to rush in. I found this girl to be sad...n I jst fall in love with this girl @ first sight, and I don't know why? She is jst an average looking girl and this was my first such experience....I got ready to go along with her without caring about what she might have done in her past.... Tell me if I try to contact her will she be any more interested in talking to me or is she missing me now when were not talking since last 10 days...Bcoz I m missing her like anything all the time....
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (11 November 2010):
Hi i think you might have rushed in to things a bit to quickly for her, i mean 24 days is not a long time to be declaring our love to someone and to propose to them, i think you moved to fast for her and she freaked out a little bit and that is why she has stopped talking to you, she probably wants to take things slow with a guy as she probably doesnt want to end up hurting again like she did the last time a relationship broke up, for now you need to give her some space and not talk to her, in a few weeks maybe ask her how she is, and ask her can you continue your friendship but take it slowely, goodluck
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (11 November 2010):
Hi i think you might have rushed in to things a bit to quickly for her, i mean 24 days is not a long time to be declaring our love to someone and to propose to them, i think you moved to fast for her and she freaked out a little bit and that is why she has stopped talking to you, she probably wants to take things slow with a guy as she probably doesnt want to end up hurting again like she did the last time a relationship broke up, for now you need to give her some space and not talk to her, in a few weeks maybe ask her how she is, and ask her can you continue your friendship but take it slowely, goodluck
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reader, asma_asd  +, writes (11 November 2010):
 Hi
I believe she hasnt got over ex. Sometimes people take more time to get over their ex. I know my bf broke up with me a week before, it should be easy to get over him, since he is an manipulative idiot. But still the break up hurts. Try to be there for her as a friend. She will appreciate that and might get attached to you. All the best.
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reader, Alexisonfire +, writes (11 November 2010):
 I think that she still isn't over the last guy she was with. You should give her some space to think about what she wants to do. You should tell her that you have feelings for her and don't rush into anything.
If she tells you that she isn't ready for a relationship you should just move on. People can be hung up on their exs for years, and its hard to face the fact that she can't ever be with him again because he is now married.
Be there for her as a face, I know its hard on you, maybe in time she will want a relationship with you, but she needs you as a friend. Good luck!
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