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writes:She doesn’t flirt or date. Is she interested?I’m interested in one of my classmates but her signals are very confusing. Some feminine insight would be much appreciated.I was interested in her two years ago and it appeared to be mutual. She invited me over for a great dinner she prepared and we later went for a stroll but her body language was so closed and cold. There were no openings; she seemed disinterested. I left confused and moved on.Two years have passed. I have been in and out of relationships since then but I noticed that she has remained single. We recently went out for lunch after all this time and on the topic of relationships, she said that she was happy being single. Her body language and paralanguage, however, radiated a completely different sentiment.We went out with some friends the following night. The two of us had a great time together, mostly away from the group. When I noticed a look of interest in her eye for a momentary gaze we shared, I felt a window open and it got me thinking. Late that night I emailed her to invite her out on Saturday. She eagerly accepted “to go out with me” and her emails seemed to transpire interest but then, on our date, it was back like our first dinner two years ago. I felt like a knight up against a 50ft castle wall; she was so “closed”. We were at a dance night/lesson and she wouldn’t hold my hand more than she had to. Again, her body language was cold and I felt like a fool. Maybe she just wanted a dancing partner. I drove her home.I wrote to thank her and she replied with a thank you and a note saying that she felt “really lucky”. On campus, she filed out of class without much eye contact.And now for a twist… I had “seeded” a second date before our first. I had thanked her for a favor she did for me with a pair of movie tickets. She opened the envelope after class, discovered the surprise and (as I hoped) wrote to me suggesting quite enthusiastically that we go to the movies together. So we’re going later this week.My conclusion right now is that she is interested. Maybe she not sure how to act when we’re together. The thing is, when there isn’t so much as a crack in her “shield” that I can wedge myself into so things can progress, I have NOOOO idea what to do. It’s so much simpler when women flirt or show some overt signs of interest (in person). Oh, how I miss that.I figure she has her “defenses” up and has for a number of years but I have no idea what to do. Do you have any suggestions? Any idea why she’s acting like this or alternatively, why I’m perceiving things as I do? Maybe I should just take her in my arms on our date (if she’ll at least let me hold her hand) and just kiss her. Is that too bold?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2009): or you could just talk to her and say something like "I have a friend who fancies this girl and he is not sure if he fancies him, but really really likes her and wants to x whatever to her"
kiss too bold and you feel that way because you are young nieave and keen (and i hate you already sigh). Dude just talk to her its the best way - romantic gesture follows.
TALK TO HER ASK HER HOW SHE FEELS..
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