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writes:I'm not enjoyin my 1yr 5months relationship. Cos she does not call me and show care, and if i complain to her about it she said no call card also threaten not to pick my call if i complian again. I don't know maybe she love me or playin games on me, cheatin. We don't see each other regularly cos of distance. What can i do cos i love her. No sex yet just two kisses. Is she in love with me or another person. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2007): I am in the same situation dude. We have dated for the same period of time. I call her like twice a day, when I complain, she tells me I should stop bragging that I am the only one who calls. Same case as yours, that she does not have calling cards. I love her a lot, but I think relationships are supposed to be mutual. It feels one sided to be the one calling all the time. It is hard to let go, but I think I just chose to. I have decided I will only call when she calls, I have decided to silently move on, without telling her, unless she changes. I dont know a better way to do it , but man, there are better chics out there who can show you love. Chics who dont call you are mean, and I think they are the same women who deny their husbands sex in marriage. My advice is, let go. I am trying to be strong to let go. There are better people out there who will make you feel better.
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reader, quicktrip16  +, writes (27 July 2007):
Honestly i would say that you should try to find another girl. I mean if she threatens to hang up on you then there is something wrong. If you dont see her very often its going to make it hard to maintain a healthy relationship. But good luck whatever you do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhat do u really mean by taking ten steps backward?
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reader, DJ8433 +, writes (26 July 2007):
 Relationships are difficult to begin with, but long distance makes relationships even more difficult. It sounds like she is growing distant. You are not making her life happy, but more difficult. By complaining, she is seeing you as a burden. She obviously does not want to hurt your feelings, but if you keep complaining she may say goodbye. If you want ot have any chance of continueing to see this girl in the future you need to take about ten steps backwards. If your not engaged to be married or preparing for a future together, then you need to just enjoy the time you have talking together and being together when you are. I suggest dating other girls (not necessarily kissing) it will help you not think about her so much. You can only control yourself and what you do, you cannot control others. If she is going to say goodbye, she is going to say goodbye. If you keep making her feel bad when you talk with her, you will continue to push her away. Maybe someday you will be together, maybe not. Live life and be happy, it's too short not to.
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