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writes: Hi, everyone,I will appreciate your time and you advice on this please:I have been in relationship with my partner for 2 years. I have to say, from the first few months of knowing her I felt that we might not be right for each other, but I kept saying to myself no one is perfect, and people can change, so I gave her a chance and put up with her attitude. The fundamental problem was that she could only see herself and her carrier, it was like my needs, my feelings, my carrier even my love for her had to be sacrificed for no matter what!!. I always believed in sharing, caring, and doing things for each other and together, but she believed in money, making money, and her job only and everything else was secondary!!.She could never accept she is wrong, and she had a very low and bad temper, which as a result we could not communicate effectively, she could not ever listen to me, but only could shout and force her arguments to me like a bully. I could not tolerate that anymore.Things went from bad to worse, and I had enough of all her endless demands and her selfishness, and her attitude and we got separated recently.I dedicate my love, my life, and feelings, to her with so much genuine and emotional feeling for two years, and I find it hard now to understanding why and how I got myself involve in this, ? and why I put up with it? May just me to blame, but I never knew the extend of her bad attitude and short temper. I have a mix feeling, of blaming myself of why I didn’t cut this relationship long time ago? I feel emotionally hurt, as I first fall in love with her, and then she showed me her other side!!! I find it hard to believe that someone can be such a two faces!, as the first few month she was totally different person to whom she turned up to be!!.I know we possibly wouldn’t have a good future together, I know that it was a mistake, may be my mistake of staying with her, but I find it hard to fight all these feelings inside of me, on the other hand I am thinking if she really and truly loved me she wouldn’t have moved on like this so quick. She told me once she is very cold hearted, and she kind of saying it as she was proud of it!!, I ignored that comment at the time, but now I know very well what she meant. She has done this before to many others, using them and leaving them. I was no longer serving the purpose for her. Now I just want a way to get her out of my system and forget her, but my love for her was so strong, I open my heart to her without any protection, without any intention but love, but that is what you are suppose to do, when you are in love don’t you?. But feeling wise I find it hard to cope with it! I know may be the time will be a healer but I have nightmares at night, about the whole things! , what can I do? Please adviceThanks very much for your time
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2006): you will find the true one for u you sound like a very nice and careing man take sum time and clear out your head there will be some one worth wile out the for you she will come out when the time is right then you will never think about this a agin
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (29 November 2006):
 You are right about time being a healer. You need to stay busy in the mean time. Go out with friends, start a hobby, join a club, just stay busy. Eventually you will start feeling better, it just takes awhile. Good luck, buddy.
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