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writes:Hey guys. First time writing here..I've been in a relationship with a woman for nearly three years now (Long distance)..We see each other every month or so for about a week, but will soon close this gap shorter so it's more regular.Only that right now at the moment it feels like we have a slight crisis..We've had our fair share of problems, but we've always stuck together as a team and worked it. One thing we have between each other is absolute honesty.However lately she's told me she's lost the sexual, physical attraction she had for me (And I'm a good-looking guy here to boot) and she's anxious, worried about us. I believe this all comes down to the distance between us (She's in Finland and I'm in the UK) as it's too emotionally heavy and burdening. The sex hasn't been terrible but it's not been that great either..we have had our good moments however, though. But those times she was lustful for me- (And those did happen to be renewed lusts..)It got to the point where last night I told her if she feels this way and if she feels that something better is going to come along then I'll just go, because she's not my damn crutch and the only way we can move forward if this is how it is that breaking contact is the only way. I mean, I feel like I'm prepared to do it. I'm not afraid- Don't get me wrong. I love her more than anything in this world and I don't think I'll ever love anyone like I've loved her, ever-But it's funny, because she rang me about 4 hours later, breaking down on the phone crying saying she can't do this. She can't leave me.Deep down I don't want to leave her, either- I want to work this out with her. I want to rekindle her passion for us and make things work..I want to put more effort into bringing us closer and giving us the intimacy that we need.I don't know what to do though..Do you guys think I'm flogging a dead horse or do you think that even after all the strain, the fact that we still want to be together 'no matter what' means something? Or is that just laughable? Because I don't doubt our feelings for each other, or we'd have already split.It's just this problem...how do we as a couple deal with it, and how do we make flowers from our relationship?Thanks.
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reader, wolffbreakk +, writes (14 May 2009):
wolffbreakk is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'll be seeing her by the end of this month. I get the feeling we'll end up crying in each others arms, but I don't know really. I'd go so as far to say that I have no idea what I'll do or say, but I do know I just want to make things right somehow..
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