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writes:Me and my girlfreind broke up 2 weeks ago. She ended it and it was a massive shock. She said her feelings weren't as strong and didn't love me. I loved this girl sooo much and i ask her to give us some space and see. I call her before (yes i know i shouldn't have) and she said come and see me which I agree to but in a couple of days.Now, I'm scared because I don't know what she will say. I think its unfair to tell me how she feels again and hurt me but I'm scared to let her in my heart if she wants to try again.Advice would be amazing.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (18 March 2014):
 I have to agree with the others in recommending you NOT go.
She broke up with you and told you she didn't love you. I can't imagine her feelings have changed all that much in the short time since. There is really no point in hearing the same painful news again.
And as stated, remaining friends is just false hope for you and unrealistic for both of you. Your feelings for her are too strong to allow you to be a true friend.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (18 March 2014):
 I agree with CMMP
She has already told you that she doesn't LOVE you as much as YOU love her. I would without a doubt cancel the meeting and stop talking to her. Friendship is not possible for you two for now.
GIVE yourself some time and some clarity.
Would YOU want to BE with someone you cared for but didn't really love? Would you think, if you DID say yes to that, that it would be fair on her?
She really DID do you a favor (no matter how painful it is now) to break up with you. She cares about you ,but she doesn't LOVE you. YOU deserve a girl who LOVES you to bits and who you in turn LOVE to bits too.
If you met up and she wants you back, it will ONLY be a matter of time before the other shoe drops and she discover that she TRULY doesn't love you, but she didn't want to be alone.
When you break up with someone or they break up with you, meeting up or talking is not a good idea. In your case, because you are WAY more emotionally invested in the relationship YOU will end up with more heart break.
It will get better.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (18 March 2014):
 Don't go.
If she regrets what she said its tough, you will always be walking on glass if you got back together.
That's my opinion though, you may want to risk another chance but I think you would be better recovering and slowly moving on.
Whatever she wants to meet up for is going to make things harder for you, tell her you won't be there or simply don't show up
Good luck x
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reader, CMMP +, writes (18 March 2014):
My advice is to cancel the meeting and tell her that you changed your mind, you'd rather not see her. I know it sounds crazy but you have a better chance at winning her back if you don't want her back anymore.
I had a gf I loved break up with me. I tried to get her back (didn't embarrass myself though), but she wasn't very receptive.
I had met another girl a week ago and so I asked her out. We hit it off big time so I completely stopped calling my ex. When she called to chat I wasn't interested in doing so. All of a sudden she started calling me more, wondering what was up. I told her we broke up, so there's nothing to talk about anymore.
The tables had turned, and when she found out I had met someone else she became desperate. She begged for me to come back but I refused because I figured we broke up for a reason. 10 years later she still contacts me on occasion.
Sorry for the life history, but I truly believe that the best thing to do here would be forget about her. Maybe she'll come back, but at least if she doesn't you'll be on the road to recovery without having embarrassed yourself.
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