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26-29,
*ove_You_Forever
writes:I was in a long distance relationship where we loved each other deeply. Until I had OCD. My compulsive behavior caused a scratch on us. She got depressed and I was there, but I noticed she was avoiding me. For three months she doesn't knows what she feels for me.She doesn't wants to talk about, avoids me more than ever. We argued a lot, and today, she said she thought she wasn't good enough. I told her I loved her no matter what, that I would be next to her, and she suddenly said she was out of the depression, that this is why she didn't wanted to talk, because I have hopes. We agreed on being friends and I would not bring that up. I'm trying to see if she will pick me up on the phone, for some reason she does not want to hear my voice (we mostly talked through messages). Do I have a chance to get her back? What should I do? Oh she also said she is not going into relationships right now.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (18 March 2014):
 Are you diagnosed with OCD? Or do you "think" you have OCD? Because if you are not diagnosed, then you ought to see your doctor and a therapist of the OCD pops up in your life and makes life harder for you.
But back to your question, you write:
"Oh she also said she is not going into relationships right now."
That isn't code for anything. It SIMPLY means she doesn't WANT a relationship right now, not with YOU nor ANYONE else.That is her trying to let you down easily, to not hurt your feelings.
My advice leave her be. Back off. GIVE her space and YOURSELF space. Don't chase after her when she has CLEARLY stated she isn't INTERESTED any more. Cut the contact. The longer you pine after her, the longer it will take for you to ACCEPT that she doesn't want you back.
Focus on yourself for a bit. Take time out of the dating game and talk to a doctor about the OCD. IF that is really what you have. Could be you are guessing and that OCD seems like a fit.
As for OCD, it doesn't GO away on it's own. You don't OUTGROW it. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is especially useful for treating OCD - I can say for myself it worked - I still have my "rituals" but they don't RULE my life, I still have a fear of germs/dirt but I don't get anxiety attacks when entering a hospital/doctor's office. I still have a fear of large crowds and so forth. OCD comes in MANY forms and most of them are highly "treatable" in the sense that YOU can take over the controls of your life, but you will possibly never get rid of them entirely.
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