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writes:Sorry to repost this, just didn't get comments last time so I'm hoping someone sees thisAlright, so there's this chick that I work with. I'm always talking to her when we work together, and we get along pretty well, but we've never really gotten to a very personal level, it's mostly just small talk. She's 5 or 6 years older than me though. So the other day I was working, and something happened that caught me totally off-guard. We were chit chatting, and all of a sudden she basically asked me to come out with her to the city that night. I told her that I already had plans that night (which I did), but asked if I could take her up on the offer some other time, and she said yes. However, I feel like she felt a little reluctant when I asked her this. She's REALLY cute, but the thing is, we live completely different lifestyles. She's a pharmacist, and I'm a stock boy, I make almost nothing while she makes six digits. I've had a thing for her for the longest time though, but I don't know how to go about taking her out on a date. I'm a really nervous person most of the time, especially when it comes to girls that I really like. And looking at it now, I feel like I should've just cancelled what I was doing and gone with her, I feel like I let a really good opportunity go, which sucks more than anything seriously. Any advice on how I might go about this and possibly take this girl out? I could REALLY use it!
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (23 February 2010):
 I've got to go With Strontium Dog on this one. She is not going to like the facebook approach. She asked you in person, so she expects you to reciprocate in kind. We know it is harder, that is exactly why she wants you to do it that way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2010): Thanks for the advice you two. I'm wondering if it would be a bad idea to send her a message on facebook?
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (22 February 2010):
The ball is firmly in your court. She is waiting for you to make the next move. You have two options. First is to ask her out for coffee after work. This is a low commitment date that will allow you two to chat outside of the work structure. It can last 15 minutes or an hour depending on how it goes. I recommend this option for you at this point.
The other option is to plan a whole date for her. At least dinner and a movie. Keep you time plans flexible so if she can't go Friday you can still go Saturday. Start by saying, "I'm sorry I couldn't go out with you last time, would you like to see a movie this weekend?" This is a 4 or 5 hour commitment and more difficult for a newer relationship, but more impressive as a commitment from you.
She has stepped out her comfort zone as far as she is willing to in asking you out. Don't let this wait very long. You need to act right away. Every time she sees you and you don't ask she is thinking he doesn't like me in that (boyfriend/girlfriend) way. You don't want he rto get used to that idea.
Go forth and conquer,
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