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She already has a boyfriend and I'm the first woman she's been with. Am I making her life too complicated?

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Question - (29 December 2013) 2 Answers - (Newest, 30 December 2013)
A female South Africa age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I live in johannesburg now in village eastern cape visit my grandmother only my cousins knows that I am swing girls. I meet other cute aNd smart girl she's cute enough and the type of girls I likes she offer to be my friend and close friend but was not what I expect to her I am morethan what she thinks last night visit me till later I ask her to sleep because the was no car to take home she did not have problem about that

We sleep in same bed and same blankets she was telling me about her boyfriend how he so romentic and caring and acting how he touched her until I endup touch her shows her other practise but we endup having sex and enjoy each other then at morning she left me promise to see promise to visit thurday again but now I receive her massage say "its cold and raining do I come over ur place I am so boredom alone"

Now my problem after we hard sex I ask her that she done sex with other girls before she reply as I am the first one ever since she's dating boys

My question is don't think I am making her life complicated?

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A female reader, Ciar Canada +, writes (30 December 2013):

Ciar agony auntIf she has what is supposed to be an exclusive relationship with someone else, man or woman, then yes, you are complicating her life by becoming intimately involved with her. And your own.

She is cheating on her boyfriend and you are just as guilty.

My advice is to either steer clear of the woman or keep it a strictly platonic friendship.

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A female reader, janniepeg Canada +, writes (29 December 2013):

janniepeg agony auntIf the couple are openly swingers and they know about you then I don't see a problem. From your post it sounds like he's always away, leaving her alone. Men find it less threatening if a woman cheats with another woman than with a man. Doesn't make it right though. You have to make sure her husband is okay with it. You are only visiting your grandma so after you she might be looking for other girls. Her life is complicated to begin with because she might be a closeted gay. However I don't want to be responsible for the cheating so I would stay out of attached people. More likely than not her boyfriend doesn't know.

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