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writes:Hi my name is jack i am 20 and my girlfriend is 18, and i recently cheated on my girlfriend jill for a girl named Kristine, she absolutely despises. Kat and i have been friends for a long time and jill never liked her because Kristine has made out with other guys while they had boyfriends before but i never thought anything of it.Well one day i call Kristine ask her if she wants to come to my house and she comes over and eventually i just kiss her and i guess i kissed her (i didn't tell jill this part) because i thought i could get away with it. Well i take Kristine home i told her the next morning i am not going to see her anymore. And i told her not to tell anyone. But i feel really guilty of course and i end up telling my girlfriend what happened. Shannon had broken up with me and ever since I've been trying to get her back because i feel like i am not that kind of person, I'm not the one that cheats on their girlfriend's and don't care. I feel like i can do a lot better and i just want to treat her as good as she treated me and i believe i can do that. I know that people say that people who cheat are going to do it again but i wouldn't ever think about doing that again to Jill. Shannon means so much to me and i told her this part of the story that i kissed Kristine once and she kissed me a second time but that’s not true i felt like in order for her to give me another chance that would be the way to go. But i did make out with Kristine not once but twice and i felt so guilty about it so i told Jill i only kissed her twice and that kissed me a second time. But we really made out twice, but i did take her home, soon after and told Kristine the next day i am not going to see her anymore. But anyways Jill eventually tells me she will give me a second chance and because i told her that we only kissed twice and didn't make out twice and that i pursued this girl both times. But the thing is, i don't have any feelings for this girl, i really don't. Well anyways Jill tells me she is going to give me a second chance including i didn't tell her exactly what happened. But Jill emails this girl telling her she's pathetic and that she is very disrespectful...etc. And eventually Kristine tells her mostly everything of what happened. Now this backfired because she doesn't believe me and Jill said if what i told Jill was true then i need to confront Kristine about it over the phone while Jill is listening and i am so afraid one what’s going to happen. I guess depending on what i tell her and what Kristine says tells Jill if she will give me another chance or not. I wrote down what i should say to Kristine because if i don't write it down then it won't come out. And i have no freaking idea on what to do?? I'm totally clueless? Could anyone give me advice on what to do without telling Shannon the whole truth because that will devastate her that jill lied again and i cheated. Please if you can help me that would be great.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2007): You need to be single until you can figure out how to treat a girl properly. Spend 6 months without a girlfriend thinking about what you did and how you are never going to do that to another girl, then if your girlfriend takes you back, she really loves you and you have proven yourself able to keep your hands off of other girls.
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