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writes: Dear Cupid,I recently met this guy, about a month ago. And I got to know him and he's a nice, decent and funny guy. He said he's never had experience with love before. He also shuns vulgar actions and behaviour from girls and guys as well. And, he's always looking for me at get togethers and every 5 mins and always goes out of his way to help me with things, even if it means carrying a REALLY light weight object. He even saved flower petals I had given him 3 weeks ago in a cleanex and put it in his wallet, after having written the date on it. He says that the first thing he liked about Toronto was something that he'll tell me "when the time is write". I feel attached and in love with him. Should I approach him regarding this? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2006): He sounds like a great guy. If it's been a month, you certainly tell him you are attracted to him and feel close. But--- do 'not' tell him you are in love with him. That might just scare him off. You are experiencing a strong bond but real love takes a very long time to get established. Dear, people, friends, lovers all come and go in our lives. One doesn't know how long you two can be together. So the words "I love you" likely won’t mean much to him, at this stage of the game. In my opinion, saying that displays inappropriate boundaries and poor judgment, on your part. Think smart, girl and let this relationship develop..sloooowly. If he's respectable and nice then that means he's mature and sensible..so he may view these words as certainly being way too premature. Love will come after you two have been together a long time. You both will know when that time will be. Good luck and take this one day at a time.
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reader, Granny +, writes (17 July 2006):
 This sounds like a lovely, sweet relationship. Cherish this for now. I recommend you hold back on the big L word for a while longer. One month is such a short time. Keep sending him positive messages, like how kind and good he is. Some men are a bit shy about that big word and he seems to be one of them, and I sometimes feel it is used too lightly. Give it time. If it's the real thing, then you have a lifetime to use the "love" word. He wants to tell you something when "the time is right". It's okay to wait. He cares for you so just enjoy it for now. All the best. x
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reader, bridget +, writes (17 July 2006):
 Hey there anon..
I think that you should just explain to him your feelings towards him.. He might be feeling the same.. I mean, what guy keeeps flower petals in a kleenex and dates it??? Not any normal guy only the sensitive of the sensitivest people do that and they happen to be young girls at 6 or 7 who wear pony tails and say stuff like 'oopsy daisy"!!!!!
So Unless he falls into this category, speak to him about your feelings.. You wont regret it :-)
best wishes
Jacqueline
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