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writes:I have not been too happy with my b/f. We have a 6 year old. We do not live together. I have two older teenage boys. My older son has been causing a lot of grief and I had social services involves as I hit him in a way to cause harm as he brusied me. My b/f has been very supportive.I have been telling him I am not happy for years as he will not move in, no marriage or meet his family. He makes me feel like rubbish especially at xmas and birthdays.We have not been intimate for some months. I have been strong. He offended me when I asked if he would stay last summer.Last night he was with us lecturing my son. He turned on me on occasions in a negative way as he feels I am to blame as well. I admired the way he was dealing with my son. I tried to talk to him about us. He did not say anything to move things on.He left I texted him and asked that he does not mess with my kids heads and mentioned that I really needed a cuddle that night. He texted back and said if I want him to stay I must say so.I want so much to be intimate with him but I want change - this is not making me happy.Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your responses. I was trying not to make my section too long.This is a man I have know for over 20 years. He does have other children for two different women. He does live alone as I know where he lives although he wont invite me there. I have spied and investigated.I feel he is embarassed of me - an independent manager in education, who owns her own two houses and car.He was in his mid forties when we had our child and his mother knows his situation. I feel he is embarassed to say he has another.I am going to try to remain strong and see if change can take place. He did not meet my biological mother either - iwas not brought up with her yet he has met my step mother and grandmother who had more to do with my lufe. I do not see much of my father so he has not met him. His father died.Any further comments appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): I think trying to get him to sleep with you is the least of your worries.
Maybe you should try to sort the more important problems in your life like the fact you both a child yet you haven't met his family. Much more important than trying to get him into bed.
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reader, The old Man?  +, writes (16 February 2009):
 Am I understanding correctly that the two of you have a child together and you've not yet met his family?
Are you positive that he doesn't have a wife or someone else?
I understand why you feel as bad as you do. No one should have to ASK for attention! I don't think sleeping with him is going to change anything.
I wish I could give you some helpful advice here, but it sounds as though he is being very secretive, and you're not getting the whole story. Perhaps you could check things out on your own, and see where he goes when he's not with you. It just sounds like he's not being honest.
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