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writes:Topic started when I saw a girl in the university about a year ago .. From the first moment I felt it was a different girl .. We did not talk a lot just to say hello as colleagues .. She had a lot of friends and was very popular within the university .. i kept my eye on her for along time .. I have heard a lot about her life and her many relationships with guys and it deals with the drug and meet more people around a bad reputation ..All this mademe feel I am responsible for it one way or another ..About two months ago,I spoke with her for the first time in concert at the university ..I expressed my desire to re-dye her hair red as before .. Then left with her friends and after about a week as surprised as she dyed it and told me she did it for me,I was surprised and came to my mind, she welcomes to speak with me for I am with the time gained great popularity in the university where I got the highest score and my family of renown and prestige in the community ,so I now have a lot of friends and she of course notes each that ..We started talking more and started to accompany me in college for long periods .. We talked on the phone a lot and asked her to change her life style .. She really started to refrain from drugs and alcohol ..almost she cut off her relations with those bad people .. and still telling our friends that she is going to be a different one ..Since a few days in the last day of university I gave her birthday gift .. it was a wonderful necklace and she insisted to lay it down on her neck myself .. it was a great day and she told me that .. she said that she told her mom a lot about me ..All of this, but I think the situation is complicated .. As the features of the relationship between us is not clear .. We did not talk about any aspects of emotion .. I told her before that I admire for almost a year from the first time I see it ..She knew that i`m interested in her to a large degree .. and always say that i`m a different one and she changes her life since i speak with .. in the summer holiday she lives in another town Which is far from mine about 90 kilometers.. the holiday is long.Of course i can`t see her ..At the first week that summer holiday I took my car with a friend and traveled to her town .. He convinced me to take a positive step ..I bought a wonderful bouquet of flowers ..And asked the shop to reach it her ??home ..I went to her house, where a large nightclub, and there I met many friends, as well as watching the delivery man and make sure that the bouquet of flowers came to her house ..I was waiting her to call me at least to say thanx .. But after waiting about an hour I was shocked badly when seeing her coming in a car with other guy .. It was midnight .. And she wasn`t home while i send the flowers ...I disappeared Fast because I Didn`t wany her to see me but she noticed my friend.. she looked at hem in panic of course she knew that moment I was there somewhere looking at her ..I was really shocked she lied me and was in a car with other guy at midnight while i was choosing flowers for her and driving all this distance to her city .. She didnt predict my sudden coming and my sudden gift ..She didn`t call me since that .. she didn`t even answer my calls .. I send her messages twice and she replied me by 2 messages saying the same thing ( IAM SURY ) .....I was very sad and upset ..wondering why she did all that and insist to ignore my calls ..i heard a lot about her later .. she was in a relationship but she Separated and became single again she also wrote that on facebook ..After we came back university .. 3 months later ..i saw her there but she try to avoid everyone ..she doesn`t talk to me and me too didn`t try to ..my close friend tell me not to even try to go and talk .. but she still driving me mad by her eyes looking at me .. i feel that she waits me to start but i`m hesitant..i don know what shall i do ?shall i forget all this or go and start from the beginning ?PLEASE HELP ME ..
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (3 December 2011):
 I would advise that you forget her and get on with your life. Seek counseling as you are having so much trouble letting go. She's not interested and she has not shown you that she is willing to try to make things work. I think you have built up a fantasy about her in your mind that does not correspond with the reality. "You can't always get what you want" is a great lyric from an old song.
Seek counseling now, okay? Best wishes.
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