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writes:Normally I'm comfortble with male friends than women. My husband had no problem with that. I love my husband and everything is just great in the marriage. I have two new male friends recentelly. I really enjoy talking to them. I almost meet at least one of them every day. The problem is my husband doesn't want me to be so close with them. And they are not comfortable when my husband is around though he act as usual and try to have good communication with them.My husband fears if I'm having emtional affair. But I don't think so. He insist me atleast to limit the frequecy and duration of my contact with them. I refuse because I know nothing is going between us. Now my relation with my husband is decliing and we have to fight everyday over this. He is almost losing his trust on me. We have 2 kids. We were happy except with this problem.He is watching each and every thing I do and say very carefully. Even he check my cellphone. I delete all calls and texts from these friends not to get in to fight. I just don't know what shall I do. Should I distance myself from my friends just because my husband doesn't like it?? I feel being controlled and at the same time I feel I'm losing the trust of my husband? Please some advice
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reader, petina1  +, writes (15 January 2011):
 Being a woman, ive always been suspicious of women who say they prefer male friends to women friends. I say it doesnt matter what sex they are if y ou hit it off with them then that's it. Been surrounded by males must be good for your ego. Some things women understand more than me when you get into a deep conversation because they understand us. Maybe your husband isnt fullfilling y ou enough and y ou are looking to other male figures for that. But for whatever reason, your husband is feeling insecure and if you don't want to upset the applecart you must address this to keep your own relationship intact.
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reader, kate70  +, writes (15 January 2011):
Ask yourself what these two friendships bring you that make them so important. If you can answer truthfully that you only want a platonic friendship then explain this to your husband. How would you feel if your husband had two women friends he spent so much time with? It is your right to have friends and freedom within a relationship but sometimes relationships demand compromise.This does not mean giving up your friends if they are good for you, though. With a little time amd patience you should be able to keep everyone that is important to you in your life. I hope things turn out well as good friends are very precious and hard to find.
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