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writes:Ive known this girl for 2 years now. At first things were kind of confusing and many awkward/embarrassing situations occurred. We got to know each other and over time, we became good friends and after a while best friends.During the first year of our friendship i was crazy for her and she found out but she was dating someone else at the time, however now that someone is in another country although they never technically broke up and feelings for each other are definitely there. She knew i had this thing for her and i wasn't sure how she felt towards me although she claimed we were just good friends. Me and her started going out together with friends almost every weekend and things got pretty good, she would always flirt with me and give me looks which gave me the feeling that shes into me. Eventually after many occasions (which obviously showed she also had a thing for me), she admitted that im a special friend and i will always be one. By special i got the feeling that she meant i was someone she really cared for and had feelings towards. She has this tendency to always take my jumpers and never give them back, although she always wears one of them or brings one with her when we see each other what could this mean?... i wonder Our birthdays are on the same day... and we decided to have a joined party to celebrate out birthdays. During this party we went to a quite place and talked a bit, all of a sudden she sat on my lap and told me: "I know you want to have sex with me"I was shocked for a second because i really did but i replied: "Dont flatter yourself, if i wanted to, i would already have. Besides dont you have a thing for xxxx?"she replied: "Who cares... Hes in another country" she then gets really close to me and was just about to kiss me, and then her phone rings to interrupt us.Since that happened neither of us has made any moves towards the other. Instead we just kept going out together sometimes even alone as if it were a date. It was like we were a couple but we were not...Now after 2 years of friendship i am still crazy for her i just control myself and hide it unlike before. She says that i am like a brother to her and i dont want to be.. i want to be more. The thing is she is leaving in 3 weeks and we wont see each other again. What i really want is to just get everything off my chest and let her know how i feel and know how she feels.Is this a good idea? Or should i just let things stay the way they are until she leaves? that way we are both relatively happy and we end things on good terms.
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reader, Ryder +, writes (13 June 2008):
Ryder is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks so much guys for the replies i really appreciate it. Yes i think the right thing is to let her know how i feel before she leaves, at least that way everything is out in the open and nothing is kept inside.
Ill let you guys know what happens, thanks! :D
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (12 June 2008):
My advise would be to tell her, and I believe in this strongly!
Its not about getting anything from her. You know that she loves you, and with her leaving in 3 weeks it doesn't make a lot of difference if she loves you deeply like a lover or soul mate, or as one of the most important people in her life as a friend. Either way, the experience of being able to look someone that you love in the eye and tell them you love them is one of the most important things you can do. The reason for that is that you get to speak your deepest truth. To express it is very important, to bottle it up will leave it with nowhere to go.
Tell her. It doesn't matter that much what you get back from her. To be yourself, in the presence of someone you love, is a moment of greatness in your life.
Good luck.
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii  +, writes (7 June 2008):
 definetely tell her :] itll not only make you feel better but give you closure and you can then both decide what to do. keep chatting to her and keep in touch make sure she knows that your not gonna forget about her.
x good luck x
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reader, mercerbear  +, writes (7 June 2008):
my advice is to definitely tell her. if you truly believe you will never see her again then not telling her would make you regret it for the rest of your life. and regreting something can not be fixed like all those other problems in our life. tell her how you feel and if things get heated in the bedroom- don't stop- because this is your last chance and so you should make it count- if there's one thing in the world everyone can agree they want, its happiness- don't let this little (or big) happiness in your life walk out of the country without making a move
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