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writes:i found some sexy texts from a guy in m girlfriends phone, she also replied to it, they even called each other...and i confronted her and she assured me that it was only txts and calls and nothing else and how text dont mean a thing...now i put on a front that im fine but im heartbroken and i dont know what to do...
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2008): I believe most partners look through each others phone. She could have even looked through yours. Its ok if theres nothing to hide,but if you find something suddenly your lack of trust is in question. I have been through this. She has proved her worth and now for the rest of your life theres a doubt. In my experience she will find a way round it if she wants to continue. You of course will be expected to trust. Anything less will be her weapon against you. If you stay,you are in for an unhappy life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2008): Normally I wouldn't agree with someone going through someone else's phone because that shows that they don't trust this person but you obviously can't trust your gf. From my own experience, sexy texts to a guy might not mean that she's doing anything with this guy but it definitely means she's interested. Girls don't flirt with guys that they don't have a thing for. My advice would be to talk to her about it. Let her know that you're not okay and then give her space to think about it. If you're worth it she'll coming running back with an apology, if not you're better off without her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2008): I don't blame you for looking at the phone because your gut instinct told you to - so do not feel guilty. Anyway your suspiscions were confirmed. I think your girlfriend has been disloyal and if this is flirting then she has taken it too far. One more step and they would be seeing each other and she is clearly giving off the 'wrong' signals to other guys if she is totally devoted to you. I think you don't trust her. The question is can you trust her now. Did she get angry when you confronted her? That is a sign of guilt sometimes and covering up. Take it one step at a time. I would go cool on her a little - perhaps take some time out with your mates etc and see whether this draws out her true feelings for you.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (28 July 2008):
Honestly, don't let others make you feel bad for looking. Because obviously she's up to something. I would definitely have to disagree that it could be "joking." People don't joke around like that...especially a guy and a girl. From personal experience the only reason why I and another guy would talk "dirty" to one another thru texts is because we were either A. having it already or B. planning on it. So she's up to something. Dump her. You know you won't be able to trust her again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2008): i know i shouldnt of looked but she is a good looking girl and always getting attention and she is VERY secretive of her phone...im really good to her and i would never do this type of thing to her and she says im the best guy she ever been with, but if i am why she gotta do this...i guess i needed to look just to calm my fears but it didnt, she says in the txts they only words but i read somewhere, if you write something sexy to someone no only are you thinking it mentally but also physically...do you think thats right...i still dont know what to do.....
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (28 July 2008):
 well it could all well be a joke, but what you doing looking through her phone for? huh? is that because you already ddnt trust her? i did that once with an ex he left his phone in the bathroom and something told me to look at his phone and thats when i found txts from another women and it wasnt gd i asked him about it he got defensive told me i shouldnt be looking at his in the end we sorted it out i believed he was cheating on me told me i could check his phone anytime but he just deleted his messages so was no point so from then on i ddnt trust him then fell out of love with him due to various things this was one of them.so why did you look her phone ? im not saying she is cheating it may well be a joke! but do you think you can trust her ? trust is the foundation of a relationship. a bit more details on your behalf would help.. aphex xx
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reader, dmoney845 +, writes (28 July 2008):
Its more than that sorry man I had the same thing happen to me... call that number up and confront him and her and leave leave leave I know its hard to leave the trust is gone and its gona b hard to get it back its always gona be in your mind just take it easy and don't let it show that it kills you inside until you show that you are ready to do what you really want to do between the both of you
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