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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years now. I love him and want to be with him the rest of my life. He's still in Law School and I found a job in another city 7 hours away. We don't see each other much because of the distance, expenses to travel back and forth, and different schedules. When I first got this job I was very depressed because I was a lost recent college graduate and didn't have any friends in the city I moved to. I became friends with this one guy and one thing lead to another... Although I knew what I was doing with him was wrong, I had never had sex with anyone besides my boyfriend before, and was curious, so I just gave in (although its not an excuse). I really liked this guy and he liked me too. The sexual chemistry between us was crazy. There were so many times I had tried to just hang out with him, but we couldn't keep our hands off of each other. And besides that, I hadn't gotten any in a while...Me and my "lover" got into a fight and stopped talking for a while (2-3 months). But we got back in touch and had a relationship full of sexual tension. I knew what I was doing was wrong, so I seized communication for a while again. But ultimately giving in after 2-3 months. I never told anyone of this affair. Never even told my boyfriend. But suddenly, some of our friends began to notice me and my lover getting to comfortable with each other and became suspicious. So we ended it. This time for real.Here's the problem. Sexually, I don't get wet with my boyfriend like i did with my lover. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2007): You should most definitely leave your boyfriend, what comes around goes around you should never cheat on any one EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, connie +, writes (23 January 2007):
connie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the replies! I stopped getting with my boyfriend before I even met my lover. I love my boyfriend and would like to be with him the rest of my life. This new guy is actually also in Law school, so I'm not looking at future dollar signs, since both will be probably making the same amount of money. However, my lover comes from a rich family, where as my boyfriend comes from a broken family. He has a lot of family problems. But his struggle makes me appreciate him more. My boyfriend has become less attractive to me as he's gained some weight. But I would not consider my lover attractive either. When I first moved into the city I was living at home and was not getting along with my parents. I didn't even have any friends. My lover provided me with company as well as a refuge since he had his own place. Additionally, my lover came with a good group of friends, something I needed at the time. My boyfriends more of a loner to begin with...
Do women stop becoming wet over time? I mean we've been together for 5 years now, we spice it up every once in a while, but it'll never be like the first time of any relationship. And just being around my lover made me wet, althought we only had sex 4 times in a course of a year.
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reader, cd206  +, writes (22 January 2007):
 The truth is that sex with your lover always felt naughty and this added to your sexual thrill. Now that you're back having totally normal sex you're finding it boring and aren't as turned on as you once were. It's a difficult one because you need to work out whether you're still attracted to your boyfriend or if you're just staying with him because your lover doesn't want you anymore. If it's the former try to inject some spice into your sex life so that you find it exciting again. If it's the latter I think you know what you have to do.
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (22 January 2007):
 I think you probably have a good deal of guilt whenever you're with your "boyfriend". Or you're really not in love with him. Maybe you just see dollar signs before your eyes when the day comes when he becomes the next Perry Mason? Who knows? Only you know what makes you tick.
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