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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:hello,first of all my English may not be good, but i try. The situation is that my boyfriend has a friend that i long ago am sexually attracted. I'm a 33 years old. I know my boyfriend for 13 years ago and at that time i also met one of his best friends. That happen in an other country. But i choose my boyfriend then, because he's a good person and loyal and also sexually attracted and i become jealous if he's talking to long with any other woman he know or work with, when i go out with him. And his best friend is a womanizer but i do not become jealous, only a sexual attraction, for me it sound very bad. I am a very quiet person like to do stuff that i like and was very generous not anymore and became from naive to a little realistic person. And am not a funny person because guys in my country like woman be a at least funny person. At that time i was not living with my boyfriend, 4 years later i lived with my boyfriend. During that time my boyfriend was talking to a girl he knows on the telephone too much and i was there like i was feeling that he do not love me only for sex. For revenge when he is talking to his friends, i dressed like tiny short or tiny top trying to seduce the one that i attract to,just to let him feel.but i felt a strong sexual attraction that i went talk to my boyfriend and said that i cannot go on with this relationship anymore and that i feel a strong attraction to his best friend and that i feel that is not fair to him. And he just not wanted to stop with the relationship so we'd talked about it, trying to know what it went wrong.and then the relationship went OK for a while. Haven't feeling that strong attraction anymore and it went OK, even when i came back to my boyfriend's country.but then years gone by and then his best friend decide to come back to his country where my boyfriend and i am. at first i did not feel it but after hanging out with friends and he was also present i felt it again.my boyfriend and his best friend are very charming and may be i feel jealous to my boyfriend because of his character. And just want to feel wanted.i know, may be, that my bf best friend feel the same way to me but he is the best friend and i think he has also a mix feeling, 'cause he is a best friend and want to sleep with me. Help me i do not know what to do!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): This is easy.
1) If you want to stay with your boyfriend, make yourself stay with him. Period.
2) If you want to have an intimate rendezvous with the best friend but don't want to hurt your boyfriend, then don't try to sleep with the best friend.
3) If you want to engage in an intimate relationship with the best friend and don't have much problem hurting the boyfriend, then go for it.
4) If you want to have an intimate relationship with the best friend, but stay with the boyfriend, ask the boyfriend if you can have a threesome or ask your boyfriend if you can have sex with him, while he watches.
5) If you want to have sex with the best friend but don't want the boyfriend to know, then cheat on your boyfriend.
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Common sense really. In reality, this is not difficult at all. Do whatever you want, just remember that there will be consequences to everything you do. Cause and effect.
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