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*aur2000
writes:I am having problems with my bf sexually and its really getting us down. At the beginning of our relationship he managed to make me come on a couple of occasions which was really good and he seemed really proud of himself. Then had exams and stuff so i didnt see him for a bit. Now he can make me horny but he can't make me come. Its really affecting his confidence because i can make him come but he cant make me. i have told him that it doesnt bother me but its really eating at him. It seemed to bother him so much i fibbed a bit telling him he managed it, but he found out i fibbed and its made him feel even worse. Help what can i do? xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): hi, I have same problem with my wife. All the assurance in the world won't take away the frustration, knowing that the one you love is not sharing same pleasure. try pleasuring yourselves, use toys, anything that can put you on the right track and take it from there...There's no right answer. Practice!Good luck. TSG
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (21 June 2009):
 Believe it or not, emotion makes a large contribution to sexual pleasure. Do you feel as strongly about him as you used to?
Plus, the more you worry about the situation, the less your gonna enjoy it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2009): hii
i kinda had the same thing with my ex boyfriend. we wanted to try sex for the first time but he didnt turn me on. i didnt tell him because i didnt want to upset him or let him down so i just went along with it. after a while he gave up and said that he was s*** at sex and that his mates were guna think he was an idiot. i tried to reassure him by saying it wasnt his fault and that not much was bound to happen seeing as it was the first time for both of us.
what im trying to say is you should try talking to your boyfriend. reassure him about it. it could just be stress from your exams that is stopping you come.
hope this helps. good luck x
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reader, julie_lamb  +, writes (21 June 2009):
Can you orgasm by yourself? Have you tried doing it in front of him? I know it sounds wierd, but you will be able to show him how you do it so he gets a better idea. Maybe you can even let him help...
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reader, joe26  +, writes (21 June 2009):
 more foreplay before intercourse can help..just take the things slow especially him. sex can be pleasurable if you both know what you're doing hope it helps
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xx
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reader, Starlights +, writes (21 June 2009):
 i wonder why it is he made you come before and not now?
i think all the pressure your placing on both yourselves is delaying the main event!
try playing relaxing music (like BoysIImen), use oils, in those private moments and just see how much more relaxed you are and how quick the event will arrive... good luck!
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