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writes: Please give me some advise! I am currently involved with this guy we been together for couple of years,but we recently been arguing alot and for little things.I feel that he may be cheating on me. About a month ago was speaking of this with my EX-Husband whom I have stayed friends with. He obviously didn't give me any supportive advise w/my current relationship. Thing is we just starting sneaking around having sex. He is currently married as i am with someone myself. I know i don't want him back, but seems like the sex is better with my ex. Please help me understand what I am doing is not right, yet it feels so good.
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reader, DanielMontes  +, writes (30 November 2008):
Yes, sex with the ex is great! We were married 10 years, divorced in 95', she married someone from work, and 13 years later she now comes over every weekend for sex. She says she doesn't like sex with her husband and sometimes they don't do it for over two months. For me I guess its a combination of revenge and hoping to get back. But everyone one knows there is no future. Just have fun during the moment and move on, right? Yep, she is sneaking around on her husband with me. Kind of like she did me. She is bad. Just bang her and run. I do like her alot, but too much has happened over all the years. I guess we can just be friends and keep separate places. Life is not perfect. Be happy everyday, because life is short. Try to visit a beach or get out more. DM.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2006): You feel like your boyfriend has hurt you, so you are hurting him back. No rationally, caring and self-respecting person will go behind their partners back by having sex with their ex-husband. You comment to justify your behaviour by believing it is because you get "better sex" goes just how far you, yourself, are troubled.
The right thing to do would be to tell your guy what has been going on, and a consequence of that is to end the relationship. I think you need some time and space away from all men to come to terms with whatever problems there were in your current relationship, and in your failed marriage.
If you are lying, cheating, deceiving and being unfaithful you should never need "help" in understanding what you are doing wrong. It is plainly obvious to anyone with an onze of common decency and honesty. Take that time away from physical, emotional and sexual relationships and come to realise what has made you so hurt and damaged in your past.
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reader, Toria +, writes (22 September 2006):
 It's because it's wrong and your being sneaky is what is making it exciting therefore feels so good.
You can't carry on like this you are both using each other and showing no respect to the people you are both with now, you need to let go of your ex and move on in your relationship and if the sex isn't exciting enough for you spice it up.
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reader, SassySarah +, writes (22 September 2006):
How can i put this ........
Well 1st it is wrong.
It seems that your random sex meeting with your ex is exciting puls racing fun, not the safe caring sex you have with ur current boyf.
You need to sort ur differences with your boyf and spice thing up in the bedroom with him, try different positions and different places.
If you cant sort this out then ur gonna end up hurting people and gettin hurt ur self.
Take care and remember if you have too carry on this pretence then stay safe and use protection or u could screw up more then u bargened for.
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