A
female
age
30-35,
*ii3RN3Ybbs.
writes:Me and my boyfriend, have sex quite alot, and its great!we had this one experiance that we thought i wos pregenent. it wos quite a scare and i cried to him, and he did the same back, not becos of the situation buh becos it scared us.he said he wonted to slow down and things went funny, he said he wouldnt leave me and he'd still stay by my side, but then i knew i wasnt pregnent so we had nothing to worry about, things havent been the same since after that, there kinda going back to normal but we agreed not to do unprotected again, im just scared that sex is ruining our relationshipcan anyone help?xx Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Tii3RN3Ybbs. +, writes (9 August 2008):
Tii3RN3Ybbs. is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for helping (:
A
female
reader, Fiona xxx +, writes (8 August 2008):
 The strange thing is that we all like to think we can control things, and avoid pregnancy. That's why contraceptives were invented right?!I agree that there is way too much peer pressure surrounding sex, and starting things too young. But once you have started there is no going back.Why did you just not use protection this one time? If you get irregular periods or are late one time, you can think of nothing else. This is at the best of times when you have used protection, and are over 18 by the way.In the case of you doing unprotected sex (I assume by mistake) you should have taken the morning after pill. I said I assume by mistake, becasue there shouldn't be a buzz out of taking risks as serious as that.In the case of a condom breaking or slipping off there is always the morning after pill - mandatory in such situations.Mistakes can happen, hence the morning afte pill. If you are in a long-term relationship there shouldn't be a need for these kinds of mistakes and you should be able to trust eachother. I urge that the morning after pill is for emergency use only becuause it is a harsh drug.Many girls take the pill and use a condom so they don't have to worry so much. But really it's not just me that finds it strange that you put yourself in the situation of such adult worries when you are still a school girl.Fiona.
...............................
A
female
reader, O Connor  +, writes (8 August 2008):
 i think its ridiculous that a girl of your age is having sex and has had a pregnancy scare. you are both still children yourselves! but obviously nothing i can say is going to stop you.
however i would advise you both to do as the other poster has said. stick to foreplay and getting to know eachother. you are obviously both way too immature judging from your reaction to this scare. if you are not prepared to be responsible when having sex, then you are not prepared to be having it.
if you are going to keep having sex, i would go on the pill and keep using condoms.
...............................
A
female
reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (8 August 2008):
Well the obvious answer is not to have sex, or only do it rarely. If it's causing stress then it can't really be worth it, can it?
You were lucky not to get pregnant and the thing is that you have to take that risk every time you have sex. Condoms can always break, something can always go wrong.
Your boyfriend has realised that by having sex he's risking having to be a dad and so it's no wonder that he's being weird. Stick to foreplay and spend some time together. You shouldn't need sex to keep a relationship together at your age.
Chill out and work on everything else instead.
Good Luck!! xx
...............................
|
