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writes:"OP Own Title" This is my third marriage. The first two were when I was quite young so I have definitely gotten over them. Then ten years ago, my daughter and only child died and shortly thereafter, my sig other of 20+ years dumped me for a bar skank. Needless to say several years of depression followed.Then I decided to needed to get on with life again. Lost a massive amount of weight and started socializing with people again. Then I met J. The first two years were fantastic! We went places, we had fantastic sex, everything felt so right! He proposed and I happily accepted. Another year and a half passed and the sex quieted down but I was still happy. Although our work schedules are very different, there was still closeness in the relationship.We got married almost a year ago. The wedding nad honeymoon were grand. The ceremony was not only to celebrate our union but a new beginning. Then it was like our sex life died. No more playfullness, and the quanity AND quality kept decreasing more and more. I know we are an older couple (late 40s) but I never expected to lose sex in the first year! He tried Cialis but it did nothing for his libido and his doctor found nothing wrong to account for this. It's not just the lack of sex but a total lack of cuddling, sense of play, etc. I find myself being horribily disappointed and resentful. He is a good man - works hard and trys to do his share around the house but I just don't feel close to him anymore - it's like having a pleasant roommate.I am starting to gain weight back and I am sure it is linked to my emotions.Our first aniversary is around the corner and I don't even feel like celebrating it!
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reader, Manya +, writes (14 July 2010):
Don't give up! I envy you your many marriages -- you are definitely doing something right! Perhaps he is in male menopause, which you probably know about, but.
Have you tried tantric sex or one of these less phallic centered kinds of sex? how 'bout you could make a "date" with each other to just lie together and get close.
Sex isn't all about sex , as you know.
I hope that the fun will come back a.s.a.p.!!
Good luck!
Love,
Manya
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