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*rancesca
writes:What is normal/average amount of sex in a 5-6 month relationship?I know it depends on situation so here it is...I'm 34 with 9 year old son and he is 26, seperated not devorced with son of 5 years old.we have been together every day since we started going out except for 1-2 nights. we have just started living together offically, with my son, his son lives with his mum, he sees him about 45% of the time, which is good....He says it is as if we have already been living together but now he has given his flat up and we are offical.sex at first was what I would think is normal (rampant!!) but it started to slow down quite early im my eyes (about 6 weeks - 2 months)....He told me that he had a pervious relationship with a woman who was sex mad and he couldn't cope with her. He withdrew from her, started drinking heavily and the relationship ended. He said he was concerned that I was the same and it would end the same... we sorted this by me telling him that I'm not the same or sex mad but I feel it is an important aspect of health relationship.He works,I work, I dont smother him,he states that he is comfortable and if he wants space he can have it. I agree! I need space too... I would suggest that the normal amout of sex within a 5 month relationship is around 3-4 times a week not every night of meaningless rubbish sex.I get tired now and again and so does he but how come I'm prepaired to put work into us and enjoy it even when I'm tired, to show I love him through demonstraiting I physically love him too... I wonder if there is more to this?...Thinking of it I did have a postive convo with him where I gentally told him I like more physical touch not just sex. I explained that I notice that he is very touchy feely with his son and tell him he loves all the time and that there relationship is different and is unconditional. So how come, where our relationship need to be maintain too, he dosen't do simerler with me, if I'm important to him. He tells me I am important. There was not any ill feeling demonstraited because he is a man who would for sure say so!!!.... any clues to my confusing situation... please help!!!p.s he has been seperated for just under 2 years now however,his marrage they would split up and get back together all the time... that is when he had the relation ship with the sex mad woman as well as others when they would have split up and then get back together again!!! just a note for those who are reading.... please help!!!
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reader, francesca +, writes (28 September 2008):
francesca is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell what can i say... sex didnt improve in fact he went back to wife...
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reader, francesca +, writes (23 August 2008):
francesca is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi tanks for you responce...I'm under the impression he is not really into porn either....to what he tells me?????I just don't think this is normal for a 26 year old healthy man? or is there someone else?....playing me like a true player!....I look forward to your responce, my mind is getting cloudy and starting to bring me down...
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2008): Personally talking I am in a 5 years relationship and I have sex daily. Some times twice per day. It is 'that' important for me, and I am in my early thirties too, but every one is different.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2008): I think it is very unlikely you'll ever find a partner who has an identicle sexual appetite to your own so there has to be some room for compromise.
personally I dont want to have sex all the time i.e 4 times a week but I want to know my partner has sexual interest in me whether we have sex or not. Do you know If your partner watches porn? perhaps he is relieving himself elsewhere?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2008): I think it is very unlikely you'll ever find a partner who has an identicle sexual appetite to your own so there has to be some room for compromise. personally I dont want to have sex all the time i.e 4 times a week but I want to know my partner has sexual interest in me whether we have sex or not. Do you know If your partner watches porn? perhaps he is relieving himself elsewhere?
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