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writes: At the beginning sex was very wonderful and passionate and i was very turned on. But i still feel those ways but it somewhat hurts. I feel myself being streched or he hits something and it hurts. What should i do. I stil think its wonderful, passionate and i am turned on, i just don't know what to do. I love him Reply to this Question
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (29 May 2006):
 What he is hitting is probably your cervix and it sure hurts when it is hit. Different positions are more comfortable so you should experiment to find the most pain free position. If the pain is a serious concern, you need to see a doctor (esp. if there is bleeding) as the pain could be a sign of lots of different medical conditions. For example, endometriosis, polycystic ovaries, tilted uterus or abnormality of the cervix. Worth getting checked out as I had pain a few years ago, and there were medical reasons that were easily treated. Take Care!
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (29 May 2006):
 Maybe try and relax and bit more and as bev suggests, maybe do a little more foreplay. You are probably a bit apprenshive each time now and maybe you clam up a bit just in case! I know ive had where all of suddenly it feels like someone has kicked me in the cervix! It could come down to the positiion you are having sex, maybe change it around abit. Also at certains times of the month, our cervix area feels a little lower, the womb will enlarge just around the period time,so causes a little pressure, ive noticed this myself at times, and on these occasions we just move to a more comfortable position. Maybe try using some lube as well, and maybe let go a bit, it could be that your are tensing ready for it to feel uncomfortable and its kinda like a catch 22! It could equally be the angle that your man is entering and slightly hitting the side at the top, Try out new positions, have your man go a little a slower for a while, the best position for it not to go in as deep would be missionary so I have found anyway, so maybe give that a whirl or find one for you that works good, once you are a lot more relaxed it will probably calm down. And expirmenting with all sorts of positions will also be fun!
Take care
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (29 May 2006):
 You don't say how old you are, how long you've been having sex or whether anything has changed in the interim (a pregnancy, for example), so it's hard to advise you.
My first thought is that you might have fallen into a routine with your partner, and the two of you aren't putting the effort into foreplay that women really need. This can happen when you've been having sex with the same person for a few months or years, and you no longer feel the same need to "work up to" sex with that person.
If that's the case, you may need to take a few steps back and make a point of delaying penetration, instead of going for it "like a bull at a gate". More emphasis on foreplay, and oral sex, until you're really ready ... or even feel like you're begging for it.
A bit of lube can be a big help too, especially if your partner is well-endowed and/or you're a small woman.
There are other possibilities, like your hormone levels are changing, due to health issues, pregnancy, childbirth or age. All those sorts of things need to be discussed with your doctor.
Then there's also a small possibility that your physical discomfort is the result of an emotional hurdle that you haven't yet resolved. That doesn't mean you don't love him, only that you might have a problem you two need to solve.
I hope that this sheds some light for you, but if you add a reply with more detail about your problem, maybe some others can offer more detailled assistance for you.
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