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writes:I'm going to have sex with my gf for the first time , I need help on how to feel more confortable about my self and how to be more brave. Reply to this Question
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (24 July 2017):
 First thing is sense - to feel confident, you need to be prepared and responsible. Have condoms (check the expiry date) and be very careful not to tear them when you open the packaging. She should be on birth control for at least a month beforehand (the pill must be taken every day without fail and she can't have been sick recently or the pill won't work).Second thing is water-based lubricant. This is very important.Thirdly, focusing on her. Go slowly and see what she likes. Do not put your penis in her until she guides you into it because her body has to be ready. Give her lots of delicate kisses all over her body (neck, ears, chest, stomach, etc.) because that will help a lot. Only do what she's comfortable with, though. If she asks you to stop, stop - no matter what.Lastly, how long you last isn't important; the best sex partners are the ones who make sure the other is enjoying themselves. Most women don't orgasm from penetration, so what's on the outside of her is more sensitive.ESSENTIAL: condoms! Please don't have sex without one.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (24 July 2017):
 Focus on her in your thoughts and actions, and you won't have time to worry about your "Performance".
What makes her feel good? What have you done that you know she's liked? How far have you two gone in the past?
One thing to keep in mind here, and I want to be clear on this part, is that almost a full 80% of women do NOT have an orgasm during sexual intercourse, or the part when your penis is actively inside her. The seat of her pleasure is NOT her vagina, but her clitoris, and the nerve system that branches out from it. The vagina itself has few nerve endings, and they are ones that react to pressure from the clitoris.
So get good at oral sex, or using your fingers, or however you can, make sure she gets her pleasure before you even enter her, because if this is your first time, you're going to go FAST, and if you were banking on your "in-and-out" being what gets her off, you're misled by those movies.
Also, bring K-Y lubricant! You didn't mention whether or not this is HER first time, but if it is, you both are going to need it to avoid hurting her more than it most likely will.
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