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Sex and Relationships - How Kids Change Your Marriage and Sexual Relationship

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Article - (12 October 2007) 2 Comments - (Newest, 12 October 2007)
A female United States age , Laurel Barnet writes:

You know that your life will change after having a baby. However, you may have been surprised how your marriage relationship, as well as sex, changed after you became parents.

Before you became parents, your marriage was probably much easier. You were more spontaneous since you did not have to get a babysitter or worry about the kids walking in on you. There was more time and energy for each other and for sex. Then the blessed baby came along and your entire relationship changed.

Life can now be divided into two chapters. Chapter one is life before children, and chapter two is life after children. Your entire existence was transformed the day you became parents. Even your leisure activities have changed.

bChapter 1: Before Children You:/b

Stayed up late making love

Spent Saturday mornings “making out”

Wore sexy lingerie

Smelled like perfume or cologne

Visited quaint bed and breakfasts

bChapter 2: After Having Children You:/b

Stay up late feeding the baby

Spend Saturday mornings watching Mickey Mouse cartoons

Wear flannel pajamas

Smell like baby spit-up

Visit McDonald's for breakfast

bBeing Parents and Lovers/b

Welcome to parenthood. So with all these changes, how do you keep the fire of passion burning with so much damp wood lying around? Even though your circumstances have changed, you can still make your relationship and sex life a priority.

The solutions sound simple, but it is not always easy consistently to do. Here are two suggestions to get you started:

1. Make spending time together and romance a priority.

2. Spend time touching outside of sex. Do you remember how you used to snuggle together and smooch? Do it again.

bGet Started/b

It is possible to have an active family life and an active love life. Pick one of these tips and start doing it today.

Do you want more tips and tools for keeping your marriage sizzling after having kids? Then download a free report on being "Daytime Parents and Nighttime Lovers" at a target="_new" href="http://www.SexTipsForParents.com"http://www.SexTipsForParents.com/a.

Sex is to marriage what hot is to soup. You can have one without the other, but it is not nearly as palatable. Good luck in building your dream marriage- from Jeff and Laurel Barnet

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A female reader, Laurel Barnet United States +, writes (12 October 2007):

Laurel Barnet is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Jovial,

As a women's health nurse practitioner, I see moms in my office everyday complaining about losing interest in sex. You are not alone and there are things that you can do to revive your interest in your relationship.

Good luck,

Laurel

www.SexTipsForMoms.com

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A female reader, Jovial South Africa +, writes (12 October 2007):

Jovial agony auntThanx for a great article. I am not married but am a parent so is my partner so it is quite challenge and sometimes it feels like we are just not doing something right. so its good to know every parents goes through the same challenges.

Thanx again

Jovial

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