A
male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I never had problems like this,so here goes. I moved to florida like 6 months ago, and i keep seeing this girl. Every time i see her i get goose bumps.I will call her *M*I finally get the courage to strike up a conversation,she is just very unique in every way possible. I am not young ,but this girl just makes me so nervous, i loose all sense of thought when i am trying to talk to her, i think she feels i am stupid because i can hardly speak when she around.She walks her dog on beach in morning, so i try to get to beach before work to run into her, then i fall flat on my face. I finally got somewhat into the circles she runs in, she is a surfer. She is smart as hect anything you want to know, she like a dictionary. I don't know if maybe i am intimidated by all of it, that i stutter upon my entrance when i run into her. I do know i want to ask her out, but i don't know how to approach her. She is very laid back ,jokes alot,always smiling laughing, one time i mentioned with other people around maybe we could go get some dinner together sometime.She smiled said maybe, but then who knows what tomarrow brings.. I have no idea what that meant.How do you Approach a girl, that is so smart, funny, has everything going for her. I just never met any female like this, so i am having a hard time judging how to go forward.She is older then me aswell i understand,but she looks like she 25 or so. Not beautiful just kinda perfect if that makes sense. She doesn't drink, doesn't do drugs. She like a cross between a geek and a Surfer chick.Someone did mention the other night, that she recently split with someone after a 2 year relationship,but they split 3 months ago,is that long enough? Ugh! i need help...
View related questions:
a break, drugs Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (12 October 2007):
 When I read your letter, I thought of the movie "10", when Dudley Moore saw Bo Derrick running along the beach and he envisioned himself in a passionate embrace with her, along the waters edge. If you saw the movie, you know that the woman he envisioned turned out to be a lot different, once he got to know her.
I think you need to relax and be yourself. If she is into you, it doesn't matter when she broke up with her previous beau. If you come on too strong and then start stuttering, you might look like an idiot. . . or desperate. Just play it cool, and be a friend first. The rest, if it's meant to be, will take care of itself.
Good luck.
A
male
reader, Tommy7 +, writes (12 October 2007):
You need to try again to ask her ouy to dinner. Have a couple of dates in mind. Her response will help you understand what she is thinking.
...............................
|
