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anonymous
writes:hi,my girlfriend is a very sexual person, but honestly i cant keep up sometimes, i am not lying when i say we have sex 2-3 times a day and see each other 5-6 times a week and sometimes she wants them 5 minute periods in between and there are times when its too much she climaxes probably around 70% of the times we have sex, should i start taking supplements? or what can i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2010): I was intrigued by you question, especially being a female who has always enjoyed physical intimacy with a partner. You do not mention if this situation with your girlfriend is NEW or where you have been going out for some considerable time, as in 2, 3, or more years.
I think this would have helped in your initial question to state the time you have been together - but as you haven't, I would take an educated guess, the relationship is pretty new, may be only a few weeks or months. Which if that is the case, my own personal feeling is, this is quite normal. The initial chemistry and desire is at it's highest the first few months, and is unlikely to remain at this level long-term.
I have to say, the amount does not surprise me, she is young and is obviously well into you, and I know from my own experience if people have a healthy physical appetite, the relationship is good, this would not be so unusual. In my last long term relationship ( of 12 years) my partner and I enjoyed a similar love-life for many years, not just a few months, but we were well matched, and enjoyed this level.
We are all different, but as you are finding it a little too demanding, may be when she's demanding, take control, slow her down whilst making love...slow down, almost stop, then move slowly again, teasing her to build her anticipation and perhaps desire for longer periods of love-making where she is left utterly muscle quivering from pleasure and satisfaction..
Just try not to worry too much, I'm sure once the initial stages have passed it will be become a little more settled and evenly spaced.
Sounds great though....enjoy! ;-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2010): That is a fair amount of sex. At your age, you can probably keep up physically, but emotionally it can be draining...especially if she is always the one demanding and controlling, and if you have other things going on in your life. Most men are, by nature, more dominant in bed, and a woman who wants sex this often can be a bit of a pest. You need to be clear to her that you love sex and love sex with her, but you need your space and time to recover now and then. 5 minutes between sessions may not be enough. Then again, if things work well, you may on occasion be able to go with no recovery wahtsoever.
I am about twice your age and in a similar situation, so I can tell you that a good male vitamin with lots of zinc and vitamin E helps. L-Arganine can help with recovery time. Dont take any of that "enhancement" junk...you dont need it. But don't obsess over supplements. Most of the issue is in your head and being who you are naturally. You are trying to be what SHE wants, and that can be frustrating.
Don't know how long you last, but if you can prolong things, she may want it less often. Some women like long sessions of 45 minutes to a few hours or more, some like several short sessions in a row. If you can get her to like longer sessions, she may feel more satisfied and, ahem, ya know...well f***ed. Just use lots of lube and dont let her get sore.
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reader, Moonknight  +, writes (16 October 2010):
 Why can you not keep up? if you are really struggling then try using sex toys on her.
Vibrators work well, not much work to be done on your part and can be used in and out sex to drag things out while still pleasing her, i think you should get a remote controlled vibrating underwear for her, something you can control remotly that will no doubt give her an orgasm and whenever you are not upto it, let your hands do the work for you.
You can always let her do ALOT of the work, tell her yuour demands and make her please you
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