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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for close to 7 years. I know we both care for each other a lot. We've had our share of ups and downs, but for some reason, this time of "down" doesn't seem like it's going away...There's been times throughout our 7 year run that I didn't feel attracted to him... not physically, but I was just apathetic - didn't really care to be there. It'll take couple of days, or sometimes a week, for me to snap out of that funk and find myself happy in the relationship again.Lately I've been infatuated with this thought of meeting someone new and the possibility of sprouting a new relationship. I've also been thinking that my current relationship won't end up in marriage. What happened? Last year, I was positive we were going to get married and have a family together. Right now, I'm not thrilled about him at all. He's a great guy. He works hard, comes home, we go get dinner, occasionally takes me out to a movie... but there is no chemistry. Would I feel different if he was the one that felt this way about me?... Would I feel best separating or would I try to mend this relationship? If this is how I feel now, do I step away now before it's too late? Or is it something you learn to get over after being with someone for so long? Help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2010): Hey if there is no chemistry it most likely won't work out.try to move inane find the one person that you do have chemistry with. You will be lots?happier.
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2010): A relationship based on attraction is doomed to end/fail.ONLY a relationship based on love can last. This is reality, and reality is here to stay.ONLY if he has the qualities of a good husband (being good in bed is NOT a personality trait) then marry him, otherwise break up and be more careful before entering your next relationship.Whatever you do, entering a new relationship will NOT fix the attraction problem: eventually, ALL attraction dies out and only love can survive. Learn it now (the easy way) or discover for yourself (the hard, long, painful way).
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