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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My mom and my dad have been separated for about 2years now. So basically, all of my dad's responsibilities are now my responsibilities since he does not live with us anymore (us= my mom, little brother, and myself). Ever since he left, my mom became so needy. It's hard to fulfill her needs around the house when I work and go to school (college) at the same time. I am expected to do so much around the house and drive her and my brother everywhere. I'm only 18, and I feel like I'm 30. She's gotten to be too much, that my boyfriend is involved with it. For example, one night, my boyfriend came to visit coming from work, and brought me food to eat. My mom yelled at us both because he did not bring her food too.. Is it wrong that he didn't bring her food? I don't know how to deal with her anymore. I feel that I am independent enough and responsible enough to be on my own since I cater to both my mom and my brother at all times. Help. Reply to this Question
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reader, fishdish +, writes (22 January 2011):
 Wait, she's the grown woman here, and you've probably only had your license for a couple years- why do you have to chauffer everyone around? She should also generally be the food provider. I think you need to have a serious conversation with her. If it's too much of a burden on her to take care of herself, her son AND you, maybe you should consider living with your dad. It sounds like she's taking out her anger of being abandoned by her husband on you and she needs to realize that even though you aren't a baby anymore and you are willing to help with SOME kids, you are not your father and shouldn't be shouldering all the same responsibilities as a grown man or woman should have--in still respects you're still the kid! (if you're closer to 18 than 21). try to explain to her that she has put too much on your plate, and it also sounds like another part of the problem is that she's not even grateful when you do lend a hand. can you all hire a babysitter or a nanny/housekeeper to lighten the load?
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