A
male
age
,
anonymous
writes:My situation is complicated. My wife and I have separated now for about a month. For the last year I have been staying and taking care of my 86 year old Mother at her house at night. We would travel between both houses so we could see my 2 children and have a little family time which grew into hardly no time spent with each other. My wife has gotten me in deep debt by taking CC's out in my name, stole and pawned every piece of jewelry in the house, has so many loans and bank debts that bankruptcy is on the horizon.I'm now staying full time with Mom who doesn't really have much longer as she has dementia ans is becoming incontinent. This has put such stress on me that it's hard to concentrate and I miss my kids dearly. My wife tells me she wants a divorce but neither of us can afford it, we are barely surviving at different households. I have no family to help out but she does have family that helps her. I pay all the bills for the house, car payment, insurance and don't even live there now.If I put my Mom in a nursing home she would have to apply for institutional medicaid and might lose the house and I wouldn't have a place to stay. I miss my kids but can't trust my wife if I moved back home because of all the things she has done. I'm lost and don't know what to do. A lawyer is going to cost a lot of money that I don't have and my credit is ruined from her creating debt. I'm not sure where to turn, my situation seems grim and I'M MISERABLE. Any suggestions would be most appreciated.
View related questions:
bankrupt, debt, divorce, money Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (28 November 2010):
 As Brooklynngirl suggested I would find a lawyer who will give you a free consultation. Someone who you can talk to who will evaluate your situation and give you advice on the next steps you should take.
Why did your wife take out credit cards in your name and pawn the jewelry in your house? Was she in that great of a need for money? What did she spend it on?
I would gather proof of the pawning, the forged credit cards (she can go to jail for that for a long time it's a felony) and present them to the lawyer that you see.
I can't believe your wife would do that to you when you are trying to care for you ill mother. I'm so sorry.
There is a way that your mom can keep her house, I can't remember the specific details, but talk to the lawyer about it.
Good luck. And you'll make it through this.
A
female
reader, Brooklyngirl +, writes (28 November 2010):
 My first suggestion would be to seek out an attorney that offers free consultation. They may be able to point you to someone you can afford. It is important that you get all the information and legal advice possible, including the situation with your mom.
My heart goes out to you. Stay Strong, and don't give up!
Sincerely,
~BG~
...............................
|
