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writes:Used a fake name and picture. At first it was just a fun account that my friend created and then I started to develop feelings for this guy. It went on for a few months and I finally had to come clean to him because I was falling in love with him and couldn’t hurt him any longer. The only reason it went on for so long is that I felt I was so deep into this lie that I couldn’t get out. The only way was to either break it off with him or tell him the truth and see how he felt. He wanted to know about the real me (and I told him), then we decided to finally meet and he said he thought I was really cute and sweet did have feelings for me (He also said he fell in love with the person he was talking too, not that persons pictures or life). I understand he’s angry about this and although at first he said he wanted to give us a chance a few days ago he told me he couldn’t go through with it because it hurt way too much. I love him and I miss him so much and can’t believe I did this to him. What should I do? should I respect his wishes (he said we should never talk to each other again and just try to move on with our lives but maybe someday we could be together?). Should I try to make contact? just one last time? what should I do. I can’t stop thinking about him, I want to be with him so bad. He’s the most incredible person I have ever met. He said he has feelings for the real me but the situation is really hard to deal with. I do not want negative comments but if anyone has dealt with a similar situation, how did you handle it? could you forgive the person? what should I do?the day after we first met he told me how excited he was for us to be together and he couldn’t for our first kiss, the first time we cuddle, etc. He always told me he missed me too. I’m just so confused. I know I hurt him and I don’t expect him to forgive me (I hope he does). I don’t want to be pushy or needy and I also told him that maybe we should take things slow and get to know eachother all over again but it seemed like he wanted to rush things. (We were suppose to go on a real date the other night and he decided to cancel and tell me he couldn’t do “this” anymore and was going to force himself into a relationship with me.. that really hurt to hear him say that). He also said he has been thinking about things for a few days but kept sending me cute messages everyday and saying I was cute and he missed me. I’m just so confused! I love him so much. do you think I should give him more space? it’s been almost a week? I’m so sorry and I told him I’d never lie to him again (I told him things about me that I’ve never told anyone, because I wanted him to know the real me), he said if we were going to work through this than I’d have to be completely honest with him, always. And I agreed to that and then a few days later he broke things off with me. Someone told me I should give him atleast a month before trying to make any contact with him but he lives pretty close and I know we’ll eventually run into eachother. well after he “broke things off”, and we said goodbye, I asked him if when he met me, if he had any feelings for the real me and he said he did and he thought I was beautiful and so sweet. It’s just so confusing, I know I really hurt him and would do anything to make this right. I really wish I never lied to this guy but at first he was just someone fun to talk too, I never expected to fall for him. For saying that he doesn’t think we should talk anymore.. he still hasn’t deleted me from a social site or messenger. Is this good or bad? I just want to send him a message to tell him he’s the most incredible person I have ever met and would do anything to fix what I have done, I never want to hurt him again. I just can’t give up and let go of him that easily. He’s also a few years older than me, do you think he’ll be able to forgive me? We talked about a week ago but it was a very friend-like conversation and he said he doesn't not ever want to not talk to me again (he wants to talk to me but maybe needs more time) and called me cute but I don't know Will he ever forgive me? could you forgive? have you ever dealt with something like this?His birthday is in a week, I don't know if I should even wish him a happy birthday? I'm gonna end up seeing him at the gym this week too.
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reader, Staindd  +, writes (13 April 2010):
Hey whats up you know I had a VERY similar situation if not almost identical. The only difference is I was the guy. I don't know what he's thinking right now but I can tell you what I felt when I found out the girl I had fallen in love with was using fake pictures. Do you wanna mail or chat with me about it? I never got to talk to anyone who went through something like this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2010): I think he's making too much of it. I think its more personanl then what you did to him. I would wish him a B-day, But I wouldn't throw myself at him.
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