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anonymous
writes:I have been seeing this man for quite awhile now. Recently there were some pics of him on Instagram with another girl. I questioned him about if he was seeing anyone and his reply was no. I then sent the pic to him and he still says this is not his girl. He also removed his tags from her pictures. Which is really flaky. In the past he has been very honest with me about everything. When I told him I was going to contact her and tell her about him and I his reply was " tell her" and " he would expect me to do that" I am a little confused and still he has given me no clarification as to what he is doing with her. There are only two pics of them both at bars. Should I worry? Do you think he is covering up something? Should I contact the girl myself and ask? Help!!!!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (31 May 2016):
 It may be quite a while for you, but for him, he is not at a point where he freely shares stuff with you. If you don't know where you stand, you have to ask him, the make your decision based on his response. You can always drop him if you feel he is a time waster, or is moving too slow. Until there is a talk about exclusivity, it is within his right to date another woman. For all you know it could be his work colleague, a cousin, a neighbor. A friendly meeting at the bar would not count as seeing someone. That's if it's not a picture of them kissing on the lips. I don't think there's more you can get from his Instagram because he is going to control what you will see, so won't ask him questions anymore. Absolutely do not contact the girl. She will be freaked out.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (31 May 2016):
 I think you two have sucktastic communication skills here. My guess is these conversations were NOT face to face but over FB/Phone/Instagram/whatever and how do you solve anything by accusing the other person of stuff.
What you could have done was ask him, hey I saw your pictures on Instagram, who was the pretty girl with you? Then he MIGHT have given you some clarification.
Right now? I think he is hoping YOU will make a fool out of yourself. Because you accused him of something he is on the defensive. He doesn't feel like he OWES you an explanation. So my guess is? She is either a co-worker, a friend of a friend or.... someone he is seeing on the side..... OR none of the above.
Honestly, your relationship sounds toxic. You don't trust him and him not giving a single F.
Maybe you need to reevaluate if THIS is the kind of relationship you want to have.
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