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writes:Right heres the thing, i have been chatting to a guy online now for the past year on and off and have really grown to like him, he lives locally and is the friend of a friend of mine, so its not as though he is a complete stranger.. As we started to chat even more and go to know each other better we exchanged numbers and have recently been phoning each other and texting each other alot. He was always asking me to meet him and to come out walks with him and that and i was always too shy to say yes but last week i finally plucked up the courage and met him. We got on well with each other and talked like we had known each other for ages and i enjoyed my time with him. That night when i returned home he was still texting me and phoning me so i knew that he liked me otherwise he wouldve cut all contact. But now as im talking to him online he has just told me that he is meeting up with his ex and they both are going up to his house for a drink together and i have just got so jealous. He is a really good looking guy and i like him alot, i couldve cried when he said that it will be more than likely that he will be going out with her by tomorrow night. Im devastated.. and dont know what to do. I will see them both tomorrow and i think it will really hurt me, am i just acting stupid?
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reader, Mr S +, writes (1 September 2006):
 Hi
The first thing is `no you are not being stupid`, Relationships are often difficult. I would say by what you have said that this man likes you but has not thought of you as more than a close friend.(Sum lads are nice but incredibly slow on the uptake)
I would suggest that you talk to him and ask him if he would like to take your relationship a stage further (You decide what that is) as I see it, there are only three responses that you could get which are something like
The first it frightens him and you never see or hear from him again.
The Second he says No well just stay good friends.
The third yes Ok let’s try taking our relationship a stage further and seeing what happens.
Let’s hope it’s the third However, the point is at lest you will have an answer on weather he likes you or not. For better or for worse and you can plan accordingly.
Communication is a wonderful thing. You don’t always get the answer you would like but at lest you have an answer.
To yourself to true
All the best
Mr S
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