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writes:i have a big question ..i have been with this girl for 14 months..she has been working on her divorce for the last 3.5 years from this guy.where she lives now.its taken her 3-4 years to divorce she says he didnt want to..iam thinking she did why..well the other day i made her do the paper work and it didnt cost but 48.oo bucks to do..well she has to go to this class and have him served with the papers and then he has 20 days to answer.well he does but it takes 16 and he is filling with an attorney on the 17 day.well the divorce papers are still happening and he doesnt want to pay child support.well i go out of town for say a couple of weeks ,,i drive truck. well he goes over and talks to her well iam gone and tells her why did you file she says iam tired of waiting for you to do them.and she told me in the beginging they never talked but when the kids went with him ..well she tells me hes going to get a job now and i told her how did you find this out oh i talked to him the other day.strange because they dont usually talk ..at least not when i have been around .well i came home and had to leave again two days later..i was going to be gone for thirty days this time ..well i leave and later that night i call back to talk with her and she tells me ,she needs to get her head to gether and would like for me to call everyother day so she can take care of business.well at first i thought ok..then i realized why didnt she do this well iwas there..any way her soon to be exhusband lives right there where she is ,,down the road about 30 min..this guy is a drunk but has his good days sometimes.he use to cuss her out quite abit and so she left him.but now as it comes out she tried to get him to move in to this new house she is in now .and he said no.strange huh.yes it is..so anyway..i find this out.they had two kids together.nice kids.now iam on the road for 30days and she asks me if she we can do this .unknow talking with each other everyother day...my question is do you think he is coming over at night and staying with her and then leaving early ..so the kids dont say anything.or do you think his kids would care.they are 8 and 9.she texts me acouple of time aday and tells me all is well and she is studying for a job she is applying for so she can help out with too.i says well i will call up tomorrow and she says no thats the day i began studying ..so i says hey ..ok..i will call tomorrow night she says that means all day and night.i says ok..thats right.so here iam calling every other day.am i stupid or easy or what ..is she meeting with him.it seems everytime i talk to her now she is talking about him..so the other day i got pissed and she starts crying and says you are the only guy who listens to me and asks me for my opinion about things she tells me..thats why i love you..so i stop being pissed at her and i tell her i should stop seeing you and leave ,then the tears come flying .she tells me no dont go.so i said ok..but she still wants me to call every other day.is she trying to work it out with her exhusband who by the way the divorce isnt final til the judge says so..and thats not now ..so by rights they are still married...would you folks think she is messing around with him..because she is always saying she needs to get her head together. my girl is has a sexual appetite but she likes to make the man happy and she said that makes her happy,so she gets off that way..wierd ..i thought wow.i could get to love this women..guess what i did..but this guy she was with use to drink and get mouthy with her and threaten herwith physical abuse..she is 5'6 and he was 6'2" talliam 6'5" and tall and bulky ..not fat.solid.anyway i dont drink or smoke cigs..this guy smokes and drinks.her soon to be exhusband ..once again do you think she is trying to keep me around just in case he doesnt work out this time ..thats if she is with him.or what do you think..please let me know..i am heading back in 2 weeks and need to know what to do..incase iam right about this soon to be exhusband of hers..by the way they were together twice..once when they were in their 20s and now for the last 12 years..iam thinking something is happening ..help give me some advise am i wrong in my gut feelings or do you think he is seeing her or visa versa.she told me the reason they broke up was because he wouldnt move with her .when they got an eviction notice because of non payment of rent..he went to live with his buddy and she moved ..she has been doing all the bills her self ..now iam here and we are ok..butiam away for 30 days iam thinking she is letting him come over and stay and then he goes to work..i dont know..what do you think..iam open to recommendations..thanks. he still drinks and she doesntshe has one drink and gets drunk.we dont drink or smoke.what do you think..
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