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writes:Dear Cupid,I started a sexual relationship with a guy I recently met. He is amazingly good looking, and the sex is intense and incredible...but I don't know his last name and I don't know how old he is - I'm afraid to ask and I don't want to know (although I think he is at least 10 years younger than me) - I just want to keep on having sex with him until I am in a real relationship again. Does this make me a bad person?Also, when we go out or (I mean when we are driving to the nearest spot to have sex) I make sure that he doesn't kiss me in public so no one can see us. This is the first time that I have ever done anything like this and its exciting in a way, but I also think that I am wasting my sexual energy on a man who I will never have a real relationship with.The other thing is that he is warm, sweet, attentive and kind...and I am tempted to talk to him about having a real relationship, but I am afraid of what his response might be. Lately I can't stop thinking about him (about the great sex we are having - but I don't want to become obsessed with him, calling him all the time - I have to force myself not to call him everyday). We've been seeing each other for about a month - two to three times a week, what should I do? Should I just leave him alone and try to find a real a man I can have a real relationship with or should I let him know that maybe we should consider turning this "thing" into something more than just sex? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDon't get emotionally attached?? Man, I think I'm already on the cusp, but it's only because the sex is soo good. I think I need to end it before my will power and common sense completely fade away because even though in my head I know he's not right for me and we could never have a meaningful, fulfilling relationship outside of the bedroom, my body is saying yes, yes, yes and oh hell yes!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): Congratulations, you're a cougar :D. God bless you. And just remember not to get emotionally attached.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2010): I say put a time limit on it. Have some fun, he will probably make you feel like you're much younger :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your advice. It's hard to see things clearly when you are in the thick of it and your advice seems spot on. I think I need to decide what I really want and if its him then we need to have a discussion.
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