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writes:Hi everyone,I am an Indian male (23 y/o) who is in a long distance relationship with an Indian girl (from another state). We have known each other for nearly 6-7 years and our parents have met before. For the last few months I have been trying to tell me parents about us, but I haven't been able to. I have thought over it for a long time, but every time i see my parents and want to talk to them about it, I freeze. She has recently told her parents about us and her patience with me is wearing thin. I would like to get it over with, but I am not able to control my involuntary freeze-ups. Would telling my parents over email be a potential option? Anyone been in such a situation before? How did you handle it? How did your parents react??
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2014): I know an Indian couple, who married for love. The girl's side of the story was that she went through hell with her parents before marriage. She was from a large city. She said if she were from a village, the parents would have killed her. After the marriage, the parents turned back to normal and have been understanding and supportive. I was impressed by the strength of their love. I would not advise using an email. Tell them after dinner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2014): Honestly, you have to just go for it. Why are you assuming that they'll have a negative reaction? Do you think they might be happy for you--that you have found a woman you love and may want to marry one day?
Pick a day (soon) when your parents are in a good mood and then just say, "Mom and Dad, I have a girlfriend."
Or, if one of your parents is easier to talk to than the other, you could just tell that parent and then he/she would tell the other.
Email is also an option, I think it is a bit cowardly but definitely better than nothing!
Good luck! You will feel MUCH better when this is done!
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