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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about a year and we are ready to have sex but I'm kinda scared any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2010): Hi its me (the girl that wrote the question) I'm not a virgin its just I really love him and don't want to mess it up idk maybe I'm just being paranoid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): if you are scared then i means you are not ready ;) and if you really love each other he will say we can wait, if he cant just let him go, he doesnt deserve you
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reader, lainajade +, writes (13 July 2010):
 Like the other answer said, talk to him. You two need to be really open with each other. Sex is a big step! You need to be emotionally ready to take that step. If you are scared and unsure, it won't be a good experience for you. All i can tell you is to only have sex when you feel you are ready, not just when he wants you to. Tell him your fears and see if he has any advice or reassurance to offer. Get comfortable enough with each other to be able to really talk about it, because you will need that comfort to be able to have an enjoyable first time (or at least as enjoyable as a first time is) What is it you are scared of, the pain? That differs between every girl, so if you have friends who have said it was the worst pain they have ever felt, you will also be able to find someone who says they only felt a little pain for the first few seconds. Everyone is different. Is it regret that you fear? Like i said, make sure you go to your own pace. Don't feel pressured to have sex with him because it's what he wants. It happen when you BOTH want it, when you both feel its the right time. If you are second guessing yourself at all, you aren't ready. When you both want to have sex, it will all around be more pleasurable for not just you but him also. So like i said, communicate. And go at your own pace, not his.
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